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writes:There is this guy whom i really like actualy love. I've known him for almost a year now. am sooo attracted to him. like his the only guy on my mind.his the type of guy am searching for.to the point where am not giving a chance to any guys because his the only guy that i want. but the problem is am too scared to confront him. am scared to tell'em my feelings to towards him. i feel if i did i might lose him by getting rejected. last two months he was out of the country.one time he msged me and told me that he has feelings towards me physical and that his not that type that would tell his feelings but thats who he felt.and that he dreamt that i was kissing him.so he told me he wants to get closer to me physcially. so i was like just phyically then he was like yeah and somethng sparked his brain and that his planing on gettting engaged.so he was like what do i think.soo i got shocked and confused.i screwed up alittle. i was like am not that type that goes physical until i know that am in a serious relationship and meaningfull. and thats why i avoid going into relationship because most guys wants girl as physically one not emotionaly. and then he was like the pleaure u have the pleaure ul get that u never felt before.and then i was like no i dont want to go physical. then he was like just close the subject then. and at 3 am he send me a msg saying that his feelings toward me is physical. and that he could have said he had feelings for me to get to physical. and he was like he can go of to any women he wants, but he chosed me... for me i want him i dont want to lose him. but i just dont want to go physical with him if he doznt have feelings for me as emotionally. when he said physically i thought he just want to mess around with me and then domp me. thats why i rejected him when he said he wants to go physical. but thinking of it made me feel i was confused when he said it and that i understood him wrong.my Q is. isnt it wrong for a guy to come up to a girl and tell her that his feelings towards her physical? what do u think he meant? do u think he wants to mess around or what??? when he came and said his feelings toward me is physically could it be a good thing or a bad thing???
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): He told you the truth and there is nothing wrong with that. You should be happy. what would be wrong is if he told you that he had emotional feelings for you, just so that he could get closer to you physically. That would be using you, leading you on, and lyeing to you. If only every guy would be straight forward and honest about his intentions, i don't think we would have as many broken hearts. ~SY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): He's told you what he wants and yet somehow you don't believe him. I don't think it's wrong that he has told you his feelings, I suppose it's better than him leading you on and you believing that there is something more.But seriously, it sounds like this guy wants to use you, and is even telling you that. If you don't want to get physical with him, don't. He will not change his mind and suddenly want a proper relationship. If you agree to get physical with him in the hopes that you can change his mind, you are going to get hurt. He will just use you. You talk about "losing him". What will you lose? He has told you is not interested! And, after he convinces you to sleep with him, he still won't be! I would avoid this guy if I were you and look for someone who actually wants a relationship with you.
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