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36-40,
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writes:Dear Cupid, A month ago I met a guy that I instantly hit it off with. He was a fresh change from the past of complete unavailable "jerks" that I was accustomed to -- he held as much respect for me as I did for him, and I could still remain interested even when he was a 'good guy'. Then I found out that only a month before we met he had ended a year and a half, live-in relationship and wasn't ready to commit to anything 'serious' even though that's how we'd been acting. I offered to give him space, but he said he didn't want that, he just wasn't ready for a relationship. But, a couple weeks later, he admitted that I was right and he really did need his own room for being single and having some down-time, as he'd been hurt pretty bad, I think, in his last relationship, even if he's completely over her. I can respect that he'd want some time to be alone...but now I've fallen for this guy, and am not sure what I should do. Am I being completely deluded? Do I completely forget about him and just simply move on the best I can; or do I wait around, coming up with some strategies over time in hopes to get him to see the light and come back around for good?Your best advice would be nice,not to mention greatly appreciated,Sincerely,One Frustrated Female
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reader, Uncle Stu  +, writes (21 February 2007):
 Seems strange I know. But you must weight up the pros and con's of each man. If one of them wants alone time, then maybe some space is whats needed. but be careful not to drifted too far apart, because it will make it harder to get back together if and when you do. It'll work out soon enough. Till then, hold on, bond with this other man, but try not to get tooo close or it might go wrong. Good luck Frustrated female.
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reader, hails +, writes (21 February 2007):
 if uv fallen for some1 else u shuld go for it, i had the same problem not so long ago, but remember he's the one thats not ready an its his loss, i know how your feelin as this as happened to me and i've been with the new guy nearly 3 months now, you need to make yourself happy, dont wait around for a guy that may never come back
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