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writes:Today i almost got killed when i was at work. the only thing that i could think of was my ex girlfriend. we broke up 5 weeks ago and ive been thinking about trying to get back together with her before this happened. and now i dont know if i should follow my heart and try to rekindle the flame that we had or just move on.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (9 March 2007):
 I agree with Pete here, make sure it's not the shock of the accident that made you feel this way. Let a few days pass then if you still want to, call her and let her know what happened. Let her know you were thinking of her and just wanted to know how she's doing. Your accident will be the talking point of the conversation, see how she reacts to it, it may make HER think differently at the thought of losing you and she might just come right out and ask that you both try again.
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (9 March 2007):
 Go for it if you have overcome the reason why you broke up in the first place. Try having a chat with her and see how she feels about getting back together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2007): I guess in 5 weeks a lot of the emotional content in your thoughts has died down and you can see the breakup a little more objectively. You have to look at the problems that caused you to break up and decide if they are reconcilable or if it is for the best that you are no longer together. If you really feel you want to try again with her then do it, I'm sure you don't have anything to loose by trying. Maybe though you should give it a bit after whatever incident happened to you, just so you know you are thinking rationally. All the best with whatever you decide to do. :)
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reader, Bella55  +, writes (9 March 2007):
Your heart is a powerful thing but so is your mind. I dont know the reasons why youve broken up or who broke up with who, but you have to consider what went wrong in this relationship and why it went wrong. You have to be completely realistical here, and ask yourself if it is repairable. Sometimes you need that break to make you realise that life is too short and what is actually important. If you feel that your relationship was wasted in petty arguements and differences then you should try to rekindle that trust. Its going to be a lot of work, but before you do follow your heart you need to sort out these issues in your head, so that when you do get back together and give it another chance you are not carry excess luggage from your past.
Goodluck!!
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