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writes:I am 23 and currently studying for a degree in history which has been my dream since I was 14. The problem is I also have a dream about studying or volunteering abroad after but I have a boyfriend of six years and he wouldn't be able to come with me and I'm worried I'll destroy him by going. Even though I know this could pull us apart or even split us up I really want to go. What should I do? And am I being selfish? Reply to this Question
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reader, Battista +, writes (20 October 2010):
Go for your dream!
Your boyfriend will understand. If he doesn't then he's not worth giving up such an opportunity for.
You will always regret not going off to do what you have dreamed of. Plus, it is such a great learning experience to go off and do something like this on your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): Look at it this way...if you stay with him, you will LOSE your dream. If you go, you might NOT lose him, or find something better.
Reminds me of the motivational poster with the picture of the basketball hoop that reads something like "if you do not take the shot, you are 100% GUARANTEED to miss"
...choice seems obvious to me.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Follow you dream 100%. Trust me, I didn't and there are definently times I regret NOT doing so.
If he is THE ONE, you two will figure out how to make it work.
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reader, rcn +, writes (20 October 2010):
 I believe you won't know how this may affect him, until you talk to him about it. I would say you need to follow your dream, and if he truly loves you, that's what he would want for you to do as well. You may remain together while you're following your path, or you may both take separate paths, either way, you want to be able to say you will not have regrets by making a decision to follow your dream.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 October 2010):
Go for your dream. You are not being selfish, you're doing the right thing. If going abroad and volunteering is a dream of yours, then you need to do it. Otherwise, in ten years you'll resent your boyfriend for not having gone. Remember, there are 3 billion men on the planet, so there will be another one out there. You've got one life. Go live your dream.
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