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writes:after working for a number of years at a car business. I decided to resign and move onto other things. people were sad to see me go, where others were pleased I was going. someone from work has said, who I don’t know that I’m slagging off their company to another person. should I find out, who the person is that’s making these wild claims?I have only suggested to people they use the company I worked for, as they get a better deal.what is exactly going on? help.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (1 February 2022):
 How is this affecting you? Is it actually affecting you in any way, except that, now you know about it, you feel a compulsion to clear your name? If you hadn't been made aware of it by someone, would it have made any difference to your job or your life? I am guessing not. Do you even have any proof it is actually happening? Is it possible the person who told you did it for sport, to rattle your chain and upset you?
Take a deep breath, step back and think about this sensibly. While I can totally understand the sense of injustice you feel if you are being accused of something you have definitely not done, I would suggest the best way to deal with this would be to ignore it. If anyone mentions it again, smile and say something like "Well THAT's not true" and change the subject.
Rise above it. Good luck in your new job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2022): You heard a rumor, and you have lived long enough to know that once they're out, not much can be done about it. You have those who want to believe them and those who don't. Going after the source of a rumor is usually a futile process; because the damage is done through the spreading. If it causes you a personal or financial loss, places you in harm's way, poses a threat to your family, or slanders your character; with proof, you should pursue legal recourse.
Gossip is going to happen no matter what you do, or who you are. You would be wasting time and energy about such a petty issue. The remedy here is to shrug it off. So what?!!
You're on your way out, what people say when you're gone is irrelevant; unless they publicize slander targeting you. This is nowhere near that serious. Leave it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 February 2022):
 I have to agree with Kenny,
Not much point in doing this. If anyone OF importance contacts you, just tell the truth that you never did that. Also, If you didn't do it, the "accuser" can't prove it.
I'm curious, who told you that "rumor"?
Is someone trying to stir up some drama?
Focus on your new job. Ignore false rumors. You can't battle every windmill you come across.
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reader, kenny +, writes (1 February 2022):
 You have worked at this company, you have done a good job, now you have decided to move on to another job.
I would not even bother getting involved with this, its just one of those who you probably never got on with that well is trying to stir the pot and get you worrying.
Work is work, colleagues are colleagues, you have now left that company and your probably never going to see any of them again.
Forget it and move on, leave that job and the people in the past now where they belong and move on to pastures new.
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