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My boyfriend and I are having difficulty with intercourse

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Question - (31 January 2022) 3 Answers - (Newest, 14 December 2022)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

So this might be a little graphic, so I apologise in advance. This is kind of awkward for me, so please be patient… So, my boyfriend and I tried to have intercourse the other day, but it was very unsuccessful. We can’t seem to fit him into me, and I’m not sure why. I’ve had sex for two other people in the past, and he is a virgin, so both of us aren’t very experienced.

Everything seems to be as it should, but we can just never get it. We tried a few times, but most of the time, it didn’t work. There were a couple of times where we kind of got it halfway in, but it kept on falling out.

Does anybody have any tips please? It’s really embarrassing and I don’t know who else to go to. Thank you

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A male reader, bobbye United States +, writes (14 December 2022):

The other answers were spot on. A guy can’t actually screw if he doesn’t have a hard-on. I not sure what else you do so I suggest that the next time you try to screw if he can’t penetrate have him roll over on his back, and give him a blowjob. This will also let you know whether he gets harder then see what else you may have t address. This may relax him enough that he can perform intercourse. If he is completely hard when he is trying to penetrate then he may have a larger penis than she can take. Also are you able to have sex with no worries of a parent walking in on you that can cause anxiety and harm your performance. Good luck and be patient.

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A female reader, RubyBirtle United Kingdom +, writes (1 February 2022):

Does he get a full erection (in comparison to the other guys you've slept with)? If a guy keeps "slipping out" during sex it's usually because he's not erect enough - which is fairly common for first timers. Or it could be because you get super lubricated during foreplay.

And some people just aren't a good "fit" sexually.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom +, writes (1 February 2022):

kenny agony auntI thought that you received some good advice the first time that you posting this question a few days ago. Did you not find the answer that you were looking for originally?.

He is a a virgin, and you are not very experienced. All you can do is keep trying, as things tend to get better over time. you need to both relax, plenty of foreplay and don't rush anything.

If he keeps falling out, this could be because he is not hard enough, which could be performance anxiety surrounding first time sex.

Just both relax and enjoy the experience, if it does not go the way you wanted the second time, so what, just keep trying, its all a learning curve.

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