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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for over 20 months now. We've gone through so much together, we have all these plans for a future together, and since hes my first boyfriend i've never had any experience with other guys. But im now 16 years old and I sometimes wish I could experiment a little before settling down in a serious relationship. I want to feel attracted to another guy, I want to learn how I can be loved by someone else. And the thing is, I don't feel the same love for my boyfriend as I used to feel. We fight all the time and we try to fix it but I don't feel like fixing it, I want something easier. Oh, I don't know what to do. Should I talk to my boyfriend about my feelings, should I try to make our relationship work, or should I just end it now and move on with someone else?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 November 2012):
 I agree with Karlos 5021, maybe you should move on - not necessarily just to jump in another relationship at once..
I don't think you should " fight " for this current relationship, I mean, the way I see it, at 14-16 there is even no need or reason to be in a relationship, that's the time you should focus on studies first ,then making friends, getting to know yourself really well, pursuing your hobbies, interest and passions... so the only excuse for being in a relationship is if you feel so overwhelmingly,crazily in love that you just can't resist :). But if you have to fan out estinguished embers... why bother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2012): No relationship is easy, and you'll learn that as you get older and the more experience you get. Naturally, this relationship isn't going to be any easier than it is if it doesn't make you happy, so hence you should end it if you're not happy.
I wouldn't move on with someone else so soon though, give yourself time to reflect on the experience you've just had with this guy and figure out what you've learnt from it before jumping right into another relationship.
There's plenty of time for experience, but that comes in its own time. You won't learn anything positive or worth acknowledging if you don't give yourself the time to learn and you just rush into things.
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