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female
age
26-29,
*t's Me Again
writes:So i started being attracted to this guy and I was with him for six months i guess you could call it a constant hook up. but I'm a virgin and he is not.I had never even been kissed and he took my first kiss.When i was 16(yes i went 16 years without kissing anyone)Finally I decided to introduce him to my parents and everything went well, we even kissed a few times at my house, but then he tried to give me his number and i was freaking out because a boy i was with. (I can't say dating because he told me he had too much on his plate to date.) So i waited two days to text him and his phone was off. I didn't know what to say because after that he hadn't talked to me on facebook in two weeks. We couldn't talk at school because he had already graduated. Since he was coming over to meet my family i started to feel like this was real, and we were actually together but of course i was just being a stupid teenager. I mean come on I'm 17, He's 18. H e had better things to do then to date a ignorant teenager had barely held a boy's hand, much less kissed anyone besides him. We did other things besides that. Though its embarrassing to admit.He acted like everything was good messaging me all normal and one day he decided to ask me for my number and i gave it to him.A week later he deleted his facebook.I know first world problems, but since his phone was off it was my only way to contact him. It isn't like me to worry over a boy, seriously its like whatever but he stopped talking to me for two months, by this time my friend had told me a secret that he had told him and to never tell anyone, im the LAST person that should know but i know it and he isn't supposed to know i know it. I'm used to knowing secrets and keeping them, for people you can tell me anything i will die with it.but this secret nearly killed me. No joke.Mostly because after 9 months i felt i was in love with him and now i know thats a useless thing, though i've always known love is a useless feeling.Moving on, now I'm trying to move on because his twin was letting me know "i have some news about my brother... can we talk?" little does he know i already know.I would love to be friends with his brother but they look alike and it would just remind me that Me and him would never been together, even though i already knew it. From the day he said i cant date i have too much on my plate i knew, he could never feel anything for me, i was just being a regular teen.It hurt though.Let me get to the point.Yesterday he Readded his facebook and it killed me.Because of everything i tried to forget the kisses, the whispers, the tears, the everything!He could have at least deleted me, but of course he didnt and doesnt care about me.What should i do? Nothing?I feel i shouldn't even talk to him but for months i've been trying.And then again i guess i was just too happy to be with him i mean when he was drunk he'd try to push up on our friends but they would say no! you're dating her! thats wrong. I would always tell them we werent but maybe i didn't do it enough.Why does it hurt so bad?What should i do? Someone please tell me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2012): Do as you're doing, move on and try to forget about him. He's not interested and obviously not worth your time, so I wouldn't waste anymore of it on him. I know its hard to move on because he was the first guy you ever kissed and actually felt you loved, but time is a great healer and you will move on eventually. Put this down to experience, unfortunately it won't be the last heartbreak or rejection you experience in your life, but its reassuring to know that it is possible to move forward and put the past behind you.
I would delete him from facebook for a start so you won't have to see any of his business on there, and also I wouldn't advise being friends with his brother because as you said, he will be a constant reminder of the guy you need to move on from.
The guy is obviously doing his own thing in life and not really giving you a second thought, its easier for him to do because he has "been there/done that" before, so love isn't as much of a big deal to him as it is for you in this case.
I think you need to do the same, just do your own thing, do whatever it is you enjoy doing with people you enjoy being around. Its about not letting this get to you, and living as much of your normal typical life as you can to break out of this situation you're and move on.
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