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writes:Hello, I have asked for help a lot over the last almost year. I was the one who dated a guy who dumped me due to his ED problem and blamed it on me (he gained 20+ lbs while we were dating). He was over 350 lbs at the time and told me that we didn't have chemistry. I realized that I did indeed like, him, but not attracted to his large frame (I was a size 8 at the time).I'm in a new relationship with the sweetest man ever. He always puts me first. He is sweet and really caring. I have been a little gun shy because of my past relationship. He really ended up being imature and played a lot of games that hurt me, due to his insecurities. The relationship is going along well. I like to take things a bit slower than most people might and a little more due to my recent experience. It has been a long time since I have been with a man (years) and with the last one he had ED. I was made to think that it was all my fault, as if I broke it or something. I gave may all to this man and felt rejected due to the fact that he didn't communicate his ED problem to me. I have told my new guy that I'm taking things slow because I was hurt and he is understanding. My question is do I tell him what happened with the other man? I feel that it will make it clearer to him, why I'm holding back.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (3 May 2010):
 I'm with askoldersister. No need to tell your new guy what happened with your ex. It's enough that you let him know that you were in a past relationship in which you got hurt. Details are not necessary!
Also, we don't know how long you've been seeing this nice man, but it's always good to take your time getting to know one another. After all, what's the rush?
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