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writes:Okay, my boyfriend of two months, whom I really have a great amount of special feelings for is kind of... obsessed with his bestfriend. Or he's getting there, anyway. It wouldn't bother me, really. If this obsession didn't mess up our time with eachother. He doesn't call me when he says he will, to go out with his bestfriend. When I ask him to hangout he asks if me, him and his bestfriend can chill. Before, when I didn't want to do something or be with someone, he would stay with me. Not anymore. This might not sound like a big deal, but i used to hang out with him at LEAST once a weekend. this weekend, (it's sunday.) We were supposed to hang friday and thursday, both days he didn't call, was with his bestfriend. So, we made plans for saturday. Once again. No call. Well, atleast not untill 8pm, which i got tired of waiting and being ditched, so i went out. Today, he is suppossed to call so all THREE of us can hang. But i doute he will. I just really need help with this, because i REALLY like him... I think he feels the same about me. But lately, he's... changing. Any advice?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 May 2010):
He's not ready for a relationship at all. Young men don't mature as quickly as young women do, which is why more girls than boys are ready for relationships at an earlier age then the other way around. The truth is, you are not the priority in his life at this time. His social life and his friends are. He's just not able to understand that a relationship requires time and effort, because he's too young to understand what a relationship really is. I think maybe you need to make a choice about whether you want to be second best. I think you might be better ending it and moving on from him before you end up feeling even more neglected.
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reader, Khenygal  +, writes (2 May 2010):
You and your bf have been together for 2months, and im sure he has been friends with his friend before u guys started dating. Well i think he is not used 2the id of having a new girlfriend, i would say give him time and if it still continues then talk to him.Let him know that this is afecting ur relationship, and if u mean something at all 2him then he will do something about it. just dont make him choose, cause i dont think that will help at all, you might even make things worse. Good luck and excuse my lungage "mxit" lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): Say "do you even really like me?" if he does he'll get he's anoying you and start making effort if he doesn't he'll say no.
You deserve better than this
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reader, fishy fish  +, writes (2 May 2010):
My advice to u is to mirror his acts! U said he changed with u , so don't verbally confront him , just start focusing on ur life , make plans with ur friends and don't centre ur life on him, trust me, acts speak louder than words , if he really cares about u, he'll find time for both his best friend and you and give each one of u his fair right and role in his life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): I think you should tell him how you feel, and if he carries on forgetting you and ditching you for his best friend, then you should end the relationship. No man is worth all that hassle, your better off with someone else :)
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