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writes:Let's start at the beginning:I met a guy on the first day of university, and we started going out shortly afterwards. We were together 18 months, then we got engaged (pretty young i know!). We have lived together for two years, and been engaged pretty much the whole time. He was a pretty good fiance, except for a couple of things: a MAJOR online gaming addiction, roughly 40 hours a week online, and a fixation with group sex. I'm not saying i'm perfect either: i work nights so we never saw each other and I kept trying to change him rather than accept him. Things were sour for about six months, and I broke up with him two months ago. (while I said the words, I feel like I was pushed to say them so I'm saying its a mutual breakup)THENWe are contractually obliged together still til september, so I moved into the spare room and tried to remain civil. Then ten days later he gets a new GF: an online LD girlfriend who is much more attractive, fun etc than me, which, as you can imagine, doesnt do wonders for my self esteem. We are still very good friends, and do things together like watch tv and go into work together. I have, err, been throwing myself into socialising and have slept with a number of people, which my ex doesnt know about. I also had a short fling with a married man, which im not proud of.SOAs more and more time passes, I realised I'm still in love with my ex. like, really really in love with him. We should have gone on a break rather than break up, I feel, since despite his flaws i think he is 'The One'.Do I try and win him back, knowing he is with someone else?Do I ignore my feelings, and accept I may have lost 'The One' and just try and move on?I cant cut him out my life, due to our continued living situation. My close friends are saying I need to move on, but I cant shake the feeling that he is the one for me!thanks for reading xxx
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reader, mariaxx +, writes (7 April 2009):
move on. when exes meet someone knew they become more attractive!! it didn't work out and it's a big wide world out there.
Shame about the housing situation - can't you find a way around it? it must be doing your head in.
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