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writes:I am 40yrs old and 2 months ago (after 7 years on my own)I started a relationship (via the internet) with a 25 yr old man in the North of England. We have spoken on the phone every day for a couple of hours at a time and had wonderful phone sex. He constantly tells me he loves me, misses me, needs me etc, and gets jealous when i go out with friends. This has renewed my self confidence no endMy problem is that he has on 3 separate occasions said he is coming to meet me in person, and 3 times has cancelled at the last minute. His excuses were pretty good, but I have now come to the conclusion that he is never going to visit.I have therefore started looking elsewhere and have arranged a couple of real dates for next week with other men. I know i should finish things with him, to be fair, so that i can move on without feeling guilty. i also think that i dont actually owe him anything at all.the difficulty is that i just cannot bring myself to make that final phone call or send that text... Help?
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reader, [email address blocked] +, writes (10 November 2007):
![[email address blocked] agony aunt](/avatars/cf5ea9db-0d74-490b-bc94-bb28e6c991ad.png) look i have a problem like this my friend gave my number out to a boy she was dating over the phone, she had never met him he didnt tell me where he got my number from and he lied and told me his name was tom but it was actually reece i found this out whilst i was talkig to him one nite on the phone his friend was talking to him and called him reece so i found out he was lying to me about his name,age,where he lives because my friend told me everything then e split up for a while but i really missed him so i got in contact again he kept sayin he was comming down to see me and that he loved me we got engaged and everything, we were even planning for children and we are both 15 but any way i used to have phone sex with him and he used to ring me from about 9pm till 5am and i loved him but i realised that i dont want a virtual boyfriend and that i can do better i am now with someone that i love and loves me back and he lives 2 minutees away so my advice is for you to be friends with him and try to find someone closer to home x
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reader, whiteshadow +, writes (10 November 2007):
 get yourself out n find a real date. as soon as ur happy with someone else then im sure you would feel more comfterable telling him it is over
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): Easy, What on earth,...you just end it. This "great talking" young man is just that. He likes to talk about it. He has no intention of having a real relationship with you...and probably with no one else. The internet has given great freedom to people of this type and they can deceive many. Don't be deceived. And, I might add, hon, you are old enough to know better.... Tom
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