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writes:Im 47 years old just divorced my husband of 20 years. My husband is very mean with money. He has got good income but very mean with money. When my dad was very ill in hospital in the states, he wouldnt buy me a ticket to fly to see him before he died. He said the money is important for his old age. He is heartless. Money is his priority. Enough is enough I finally divorced him. A month after my divorce I met a man. He seems genuine 18 years older than me. He is single no kids and has got good income. He is more caring and understanding but same like my husband. When it comes to money he is a different person. He would rather die than part with his money. We've been together for 6 months now. I want to leave him but how to tell him. Please advise.
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reader, samohir  +, writes (10 November 2007):
 i agree with whiteshadow That relationship shouldnt be about money.BUT I cannot understand if Someone has Good income not willing to pay for his 20years commited wife to see her father.I guess you dont earn that much,otherwise would have been able to pay it by urself not asking him a lot.
So YES,relationships should not be about money,But it seems Ur ex husband Put it as like that,selfisness instead of gneraousity was his leading force. When my ex was broke i gave him money and vice versa,Thats reality One day you might have One not,and I consider extremelly slefish such actions. Sorry,whiteshadow.
the best way is to tell him that You dont want to be with him anymore,since it resemlance Ur ex husband in some aspects.Just be honest and tell him why you want to break off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): Have a chat with him and explain just how you feel. Let him know some of the past that you have been through with your ex husband. Tell him that life is too short and you are not prepared to go down another bad road. You feel that he is quite like your ex and you want this relationship to end now before it goes any further. Or words along that line.
I was sorry to hear that you didnt get to see your dad before he died. It was the anniversary of my dads death yesterday (9th November), so i know how you feel. My bloke at the time wouldnt let me grieve. I wont put up with cr*p ever again in my life, please promise me that you will be the same.
Dont put up with another pile of cr*p!
take care
xxx
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reader, whiteshadow +, writes (10 November 2007):
 relationships shudnt be about money. If a female or male earns a good income then good for them. Its theirs to keep. I dont agree that he should have to give you whatever your asking for. It sounds extremely selfish of you however i understand about your dad being very ill but i still dont think he should have to give you money to fly to the states and money to stay over there and all the other costs. Men dont work to give it to there wifes or girlfriends, They work to earn for themselves.sorryGood luck :S
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