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writes:Around 3 years ago me and my family moved to the rule country side. now I was never particularly keen on this idea, but my father needed the job and where ever he went i went. now i had always been a city girl all my life, so it was difficult to adapt to the country side, especially its people. they where all so redneck, every stereotype i had ever imagined came true. they all had very improper dialects and used words that where not even in the dictionary, i hated it. it took me a while to actually make friends, and even then they where not friends that i liked. for a while i felt superior to them. I even made fun of them for there lack of culture and improper use of the English language, but then i noticed something happening just last year, i too began to say words like aint, nothin, and even began to pick up a country accent as did the rest of my family. I think this is because we had lived there for so long. now i actually have to fight not to speak redneck, which can be difficult sometimes. everyone has always thought me to be odd for not enjoying the same activity's they enjoy, such as four wheeling or mudden, as they call it. they thought me odd for not behaving like a country girl should behave, but lately i have been subconsciously participating in the activity's just mentioned as well as behaving like a country girl. i didn't realize it before but i think i am becoming one of them, becoming one of the people i used to make fun of. should i embrace the fact that i am changing, or should i hold on to the person i new a few years ago? I am not even sure if i like the new person i am becoming, but its happening none the less. why is this? should i embrace these changes or deny them? Reply to this Question
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reader, fishdish +, writes (24 May 2012):
 you shouldn't take the hair as a sign you need to change, that was just sun exposure doin' its weird thing, and maybe people have found it's a flattering color on you, but you shouldn't think of it as people or nature symbolically endorsing your change. You have control over who you are and who you choose to be. You can rock being a brunette country girl if that's how you identify. Do what you dig!
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reader, confused265 +, writes (24 May 2012):
confused265 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSome great answers! I have another question though related to the one i just asked. about a year ago i got a job working on my neighbors farm. sense the job is a very outdoors one, i spent quite a bit of time out in the sun, because of this my hair has begun to bleach a honey blonde. most people say i look great with the new hair color but im not sure if it suits me. in your opinion do you think i should re dye it brown like it was, or keep the blonde color? It just seems like being country and looking different is a bit much, or could it be that this new color is a sine that i need to change?
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reader, fishdish +, writes (23 May 2012):
I think it's inevitable that when you're around a new culture you're going to resist it a little, because it throws in the face of everything you learn and knew to be the 'right' way to behave, and just because of its difference, but ultimately the culture rubs off on you and adjust to the surroundings; it's nature, to adapt or die off for being too rigid in your ways. You'll probably be happier in your embracing this new lifestyle if you let go of the value judgments on High city culture and low country culture, they're just different. You seem like you have a pretty flexible personality, even if you weren't showing that to begin with, being around a new group and adopting their lifestyle is pretty flexible, which means that your changing is not necessarily permanent, if you go back to the city life, it shouldn't be that difficult to re-acclimate to that environment. I suppose my only worry about you embracing your change is that you might lose interest in education, which could be totally off, I just mention because you say that they don't use words from the dictionary; i don't know if you're interested in getting a job or going to school outside the area but interviews could be weird if you can't drop the slang for the occasion. I hope this helps!
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