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writes:I need advice. Everything in my life seems to be going wrong, and it's all my fault. Firstly, my student loan wasn't taken care of properly, and lots of mistakes were made(their fault, not mine) resulting in me not getting it... My mum has been having to pay my rent while I was trying to get it sorted, and my uni said i'd be kicked out of I didnt pay tuition within a month... However, this is pointless now because I've been kicked out of uni because I'm so depressed, I can't face getting out of bed, let alone going in... I don't know how I can tell my parents this. They are going to be massively disappointed in me. I've still got rent to pay, my mother can't afford it, but I'm skint.I can't believe i've gotten to this. I just don't know what I want to do with my life, my course wasn't making me happy, but I've no idea what I want to do! I don't think uni is for me, but how important is it? I'm sure it's way worse in my head, but everything is getting on top of me, and I feel like I'm about to have a nervous breakdown.Any advice on how to tackle this, or even where to start would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for advice, i will tell my parents tomorrow when they phone me. I figure the worst they can do is yell at me at this point.
It kinda feels like I will be wasting my life by not getting a degree, but neither of my parents went to uni, and they're doing well... I am actually the first in the family to go to university.
I have applied for jobs (because im not in halls, im renting outside the uni, i can stay here til the end of the year, my thinking is there is no point leaving yet, plus jobs here are much more available than where im from) and will use the next year coming to decide what I want to do.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 March 2010):
I know this feeling. It doesn't go away quickly. I lost my job a while back, and couldn't' find another. Now I own a company. the problem is that it looks like it's going to fail.
So you're not alone.
1 - Tell your parents immediately what has happened.
2 - If you are depressed, go to the doctor and tell them.
3 - Uni was something I decided not to do, and even though at the moment things don't look great for me, I am still convinced that uni would have been a terrible decision for me. Uni is only important if you know what you're doing with it at the end.
You have to take it all one step at a time and re-evaluate your life. Take a look at it, see what makes you happy. If something makes you happy, can you make a career out of it.
Talk to people about this. Your parents, a counsellor. You need to open up and get all your feelings out, then you can make a start again.
Good luck.
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