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writes:Hi. Well I really need help here. I really like my cousin's best friend. He likes me too, and we go to school together. My cousin goes to a different school. My cousin has his friend over every weekend, and I always come over to hang out with his sister. My cousin hates when Me and his friend hang out, but we do anyway. I kinda feel bad but you can't help who you like. We talked about dating, but where afraid if the relatoniship took a bad turn, I didn't want it to hurt my cousin's friendship. It's become really worse lately because I think my cousin knows( the other night his friend kissed me and i think he saw.) I don't know what to do. I don't know how much longer I can go on lke this, its really frustrating. Should I just go for him and let my cousin deal with it or should I just ignore the feelings hopeing they fade. Please help and if any guys would, tell me how you think my cousin would feel. Please help! Thanks so much.
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reader, core_confusion  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 I'm all in favour of going with the moment and if there is something between you then I dont think that you should rule out having a relationship. On the other hand you do nee to talk to your cousin and clear the air. Understanding works wonders - for the both of you. Explain to your cosin how you feel and that you have a chance to be happy here. AT the same time, listen to your cousins reasons for feeling the way they do.
If you do decide to go for it then, as you say, there is a chance that the relationship may not work out. Just because a relationship does not work doesnt always mean that you fall out with the other person. If you are both looking out for each others feelings and you trust the other person then go with what feels like the right thing to do.
Talk to both of them, gauge their feelings and then make you decision. If you decide to go for it then good luck!
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