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writes:I like a man who attracted me at first sight. hes family oriental man a good husband maybe with high flyin pay presentable mature but he's married with wife n kids what should i do? he has a wife who is not pretty why does she deserve him? i dont mean to destroy his family but i cant stop thinking of him. we both have a family n children but i dont know his feelings for me. we did communicate for a short while and i find out that we both thinkin is quite the same. its just a friends gathering on that day. after that day we didnt see each other any more let alone contact but my friends have his contact. I was thinking whether to sms him about my feelings but I'm scared he may think im ridiculous. do you think he likes me too?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): "He has a wife who is not pretty why does she deserve him.."???? Are you serious?!! Well maybe he likes women who are not greedy and promiscuous. Maybe he likes women who respect themselves and are faithful and respectable, intelligent and who don't lust after other women's husbands. And from what you are thinking, you don't even begin to match up to his standards. It is no coincidence that the world's richest or most successful men (eg. Barack Obama, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet) have wives who we all think are normal. That's because beauty is really on the inside. A pretty face with a rotten heart is useless to most men. You have no chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): You want to destroy two families with children just because some guy attracted you at 'first sight' and you have some things in common? You don't even know if he likes you...how could anyone else know that? Maybe you should work on your marriage before you wreck someone elses.
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reader, babymonkey422  +, writes (9 March 2010):
 Hmm... thats a real toughy.
I think what you need to do first is sit down and think if this man would really be worth leaving your man and life as you know it behind. And think about why he's better than your man now. Obviously there's something missing in your relationship now, do you know what it is? Have you talked to your man about your needs not being fulfilled? Maybe all you want is a quick fix and this new man seems to be it. Well I think you really need to think about what it is you want in life and maybe look into counseling with your man before you make any decisions.
So no, in my opinion I don't think you should tell this guy how you feel. If he hasn't contacted you maybe it's bc he's not ready to leave his life behind for someone else so I suggest you focus on yourself for now and your relationship and then go from there.
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