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writes:ok, basically, my fiance broke it off with me yesterday, on the basis that he felt he couldnt trust me after i cheated on him last october(he found out 2 weeks after it happened, broke it off straight away, but came running back a few days later and proposed, and we had a long chat and he said "its perfectly fine, i trust you, dont worry.") and that i was apparently slowly pushing him away and hes fallen out of love with me. we have had a wonderful nearly 3 years together, we have had our ups and downs, just like you do in any relationship, but he remains adamant that he does not love me anymore, but he said this last time! i really do dearly love him with all my heart and i doubt these feelings are gonna go away any time soon! almost everything i do reminds me of him and i just burst out in tears all the time, i tried to tell him this and he just said "dont gemma". i can try and let him know, but he probably wont listen, he hasnt been mean to me or anything, we are actually just about on talking terms again now. i really dearly love him with all my heart, and i really want him back so badly! it takes me ages to get to sleep at night because out last night as a couple was spent together in my bed, its really distressing me, but i dont feel complete without him. :(
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (10 March 2010):
Being cheated on is one of the worst things that can ever happen. Its an attack on your confidence and sense of self. I'm afraid he has thought about it and made a decision. Whilst he does believe you are sorry, the stress of imagining what you did is too much for him. You can't force someone to love you. You have to let him go. Its likely that he wants his space to also see other people for now. After that you might have a chance with him. But for now, you won't win this one. He may come back and forth as his emotions go up and down but in the end he will walk away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2010): The sad thing is you should have thought of the consequences before you were unfaithful. I suggest you stop all contact and try moving on. If he truely loves you and can forgive (will never forget)you, he will come back. If he dont, you have to move on. Take my advise , you have appologised, begged him - no response. Give hime space, allow him time to heal, just maybe you will get him back. After this kind of break up, there is no such things as remaining friends - too much water under the bridge and its human nature to use friendship as an excuse not to let go and hope! Move on or you are going to hurt for a very long time.
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