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writes:i always find my girlfriend in the act of relating with men claiming she's got nothing intimate with them and it hurts. what if she's telling these guys that i am just a figure around her that i pose no threat at all? I'm confused and wondering if i should confront her and dissolve the whole relationship or should i keep up believing she's telling the truth Reply to this Question
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents  +, writes (5 October 2009):
 "she left me in her apartment and went enjoying herself with this guy for about 5 hours!" AND YOU'RE STILL WITH HER AFTER SHE DID THIS?! Dump her immediately!
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (2 October 2009):
 Wow. Secrecy. In this case, I think you are being duped. I'm sorry. She's been crummy to you, whether things were innocent or not (and you and I know it is not innocent).
Good luck, my friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all. here is an instance "she used my cell phone to call a guy, minutes later the guy called back right in my presence. i behaved unaware of the situation until the next morning when the same number called in and my girl locked me out just so i don't hear the conversation".
similarly on her birthday last year, i had not much money on me to give her a swell treat, so i was with her just to play a role and to my surprise a guy knocked on her door and never came in... it got my attention but i remained calm. she left me in her apartment and went enjoying herself with this guy for about 5 hours! have i not been a fool for love?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (1 October 2009):
It depends what she's doing. If she's talking to them and being friendly, then that's pretty natural. If she's staring at them and going seriously over the top, then you could say that you feel uncomfortable about it. It really depends on what she's doing.
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (1 October 2009):
You should be more specific about how she relates to these men. No one can help you without those details.
:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): As 'herearemytwocents' says, define intimate, you could be being overly paranoid.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (1 October 2009):
How exactly is she relating to these other men? This is an important detail. Who are these men and what does she do with them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): Sounds like your gf is cheating on you, either emotionally or physically.
By telling these other men that you are just a figure around her is basically telling these men that she is available.
Rather move on with your life before you get hurt.
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