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writes:Hi all. First time posting, and I'm sure you've heard it a million times already...so here goes.There's this guy (at work) I've {really} liked for some time now, and we had become pretty good mates... and I couldn't help but notice the little things he did that made me realize "Hey, he may just fancy me too." (Things like trying to be at places he knew I was going to be at and making conversation/small talk when I got there, glancing over to where I was working from time to time, and sometimes finding reasons to be near where I work). Also from what I've heard from other people in the company, he's not really...experienced in the romantic field, and he's the type of guy who would basically "latch-on" and obsess over a girl (He's a little strange like that). And word has spread around the store about him which has really made him the "outcast" on the workplace food-chain. Back to the point- As I said before, he's not very experienced in this, he's shy and most liklely a little afraid to confront girl in the workplace (After being totally humiliated and rejected the last time he tried). So I was close to quitting my job a little while back, and I realized it would have killed me to always be wondering: "What if I had told him how I felt?"So I was bold enough to do it!I know him enough to figure that he wouldn't have liked being put on the spot in a sudden face-to-face confrontation, so I ended up writing him a nice, simple letter telling him how I felt about him (nothing too lovey-dovey) and I gave it to him as he was heading home after work. (Just so it can have more time to sink in.)He never actually responded or reacted in any way since I gave it to him. It's been about two weeks now and it seems he's just going about as if I had never even written the note. And I'm beginning to wonder if this was all just a waste of time.I thought this would give me an indication of where I stand, yet I still find myself wondering if he really is too shy to confront me about it or if anything can actually come of this. I've kinda backed off and started acting a little aloof around him, like just playing it cool and focusing my attention towards other guys around the place. I've tried to move on, but this has been stuck in the back of my mind the whole time.Should I just ask him about it? Ask him what he did with the letter? I was thinking of asking for it back (If he still has it) Perhaps subtly letting him know that I'm gonna move on and that his chance is fading... Any ideas? :)Thanks
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reader, sugar_sugar  +, writes (11 March 2009):
 Don't be subtle about it, you won't really get closure on it if you decide to drop a subtle hint that you're moving on - and who's to say he'll even get it.I think you should just come straight out and ask him about it, you've done this much legwork with the situation that I think taking that one step further and getting a solid confirmation is a pretty small step comparatively.Good luck, regardless of the outcome I think it's great that you pursued the situation!
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