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writes: Lately my boyfriend has been really moody and becoming more and more aggressive towards me. He says things like "I just want to fight you sometimes" and "do you always have to ask questions? you're so f*ing dumb." a friend pointed out to me that maybe he was using steroids! I researched the signs and there were a shocking amount that he was showing (greasy hair/skin, mood swings, aggressiveness, trouble retaining water, always at the gym.. literally every day, bad breath, excessive sweating, etc.) I'm really worried that he is using steroids especially because he is always saying how he needs to "bulk up" even tho he is already 6'4" and about 220 lbs. really muscular. Should I confront him about my suspicions or am I just overreacting? I'm kind of scared to confront him about it because I don't know how he will react. please help!h.nicc3 Reply to this Question
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 Its a good question and if he is doing that he's hurting himself and you.
Steroids are not something you want to abuse. They can cause a great deal of physical deterioration later on in life, and unless he wants double hip implants and surgery to remove that grapefruit sized tumor from his head, its probably a good idea to stop.
Steroid abuse is no different than doing crack, heroin or any other substance.
Its obvious he's being excessively aggressive and from your perspective you should be worried for your own safety.
If you're going to do this intervention, if necessary, maybe have some of his family members there too.
Its obvious that he's going way beyond the boundaries of his character as you once knew it so it may be time to do this in a safe environment. Remember one guy (a pro wrestler) killed his whole family a short while ago and he was totally hyped on steroids.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks all! :) i think i will ask one of his close friends if they notice he is acting strangely because u are definately right, it could be that he is just being nasty towards me. we will see. thankk uu.h.nicc3
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Cheers reader anonymous for that, not all men bully women. I myself respect women, and am a nice person, but then again not all women like a nice guy, so there you go. Now for the question in hand. I think it's your right as his girlfriend to confront him about his behaviour, how it's making you feel, and what strain it's putting on the relationship. If you have fears that he might get violent with you, then i think you should ask him in a public place or when his friends are around, that way he might think twice about going that far, and there's also witnesses if he does. If it did go that far, you would be wise to break up with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Confront him but expect a lie. Don't let him think you will put up with this behavior if it is so, which it probably is.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 I wouldn't just come out and ask him. I might ask one of his close friends, if I was also friends with him. Just kind of say 'oh, he's been really weird lately ...' and say what's been going on, and ask if the friend has notice it too. And then wonder if he's taking steroids. His friend might know, or might know how to find out. But then what do you do? it's a bit difficult. I don't know much about it. I guess you'd need to talk to someone who does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): hey i just read ur problem, i went out with a guy takin steroids for 3 months, thankfully he was upfront with me and this really helped, but i think if he is puttin this into his body and if this is the reason u and ur boyfriend are havin so many problems, then yes do confront him, how dare he treat u like that, tellin u ur dumb that obsurd, steroids or no steroids it gives him no right to speak to u like that........ u should put him straight u are his girlfriend and u deserve respect and if u dont get it i think u should consider ditchin this loser and gettin a bloke who will admire u and respect u, no woman deserves to be treated with such hatered and this is ur boyfriend, confront him have it out with him and sort ur life out, men are not worth our self respect :(:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Sounds like the dude has some problems. It may not be steroids because a guy could have all those things and not be on steroids.
I think you need to ask yourself, is it much fun him being your bf if he is behaving like this toward you. If he is being nasty then you should make him aware that you dont consider that to be good enough.
Id try that approach rather than tackle the steroids thing because the likelihood is the steroid use may be caused by some body image problems and that will take serious help to get over.
Good luck with it but you need to look out for you.
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