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writes:My bf and I have been together for more than a year. We dated for 5 months and I had to go back home but came back after 8 months and moved back in with him. we never ended the relationship and we are deeply in love with one another. Recently I accidentaly realized that he has an online dating account which really upset me. He isn't into creating on line profiles and bugged me over having a my space accont which I deleted so that I don't upset him. I would have never suspected that he cheats if it wasn't for this he is really sweet and affectionate but I am wondering if there is a side to him that I don't know. should I confront him about it? please leave your comments thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): Create an account and see if he'll engauge you in dialog... you could set up a date, and when he shows up tell him it's over...
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You could have an adult relationship with him and talk about it... your choice...
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reader, trshly +, writes (24 July 2009):
 I have two things to say,ONE, is that it is possible he made this dating profile a long time ago and has nothing to do with it now. Unless you have proof he is currently using it then I wouldn't mention it. Which brings me to...TWO, by bringing it up you will bring yourself into the equation. Your boyfriend may start wondering why you were on this dating site: Were you looking for someone? Were you spying on him? He may come to the conclusion not to trust you as well.My advice, if you are absolutly sure he is using it to hook up with girls right now - tell him you know. Tell him an old girlfriend of yours started talking with him, something to scare him into coming clean.
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (24 July 2009):
 It sounds like you have rushed this relationshipship. A year is a very short amount of time to really get to know someone yet youare living together!
I would suggest time apart. Ask him outright how he feels about the relationship. Maybe when you left he thought it was over.
You can not sort this out without communicating. do think carefully about pushing any further.
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