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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have some severe insecurities in my relationship. My boyfriend has been established in this town and I'm new. This is the kind of area that everyone knows everyone and I know no one. My boyfriend has friends he had feelings for in high school and claims they are in the past but they rejected him he never had the opportunity to know what it is like to be with them people change so do feelings. I always feel that one of his friends would be a better fit for him and his family because they know each other already and I just clam up when I'm around his friends (which is nothing like me at all!)because they talk about events I know nothing about and share inside jokes etc. I feel like I should just leave him alone so he can find himself happier with someone more familiar with his way of life. I love him but I cannot bear the feeling that I am holding him back from the life he should have even though he makes no mention of it, I become apprehensive at the thought of gatherings with them. He and I have a great relationship and have a lot of fun together or with people we met together or my friends when they visit I just don't know If I can make the adjustment quickly enough. It has been almost a year now. My friends are nothing like his nor had I ever had feelings for them. I just don't know. Should I pull away before something happens between he and one of his friends to protect myself or should I just let it play out and try to adjust. I really would like to let my guard down but the I have some severe trust issues some with good reason too. Thanks for any insight or similar anecdotes much appreciated
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