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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:6 months since their breakup and this morning seen an inbox from his ex saying 'we need to talk'. He minimised this to the corner of the screen after he noticed I was watching the screen.Also I've noticed before his history showed he'd visited her Facebook page. A week ago she deleted us both. It's been a month and he's implied he is in love with me and he constantly wants to spend time with me. Last night we went clubbing for his birthday and he walked ahead of me as we were walking along the street. He was angry that other people were looking at me. He was saying if anyone tried it on with me he'd knock them out.Should I confront him about the ex situation?Although he says he is over her, he'll still briefly mention her and I know he considered suicide after their breakup.
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reader, Aunty Audrey  +, writes (17 October 2012):
 He and his ex may have their troubles and his ex may not be over him. In fact he may also not be over his ex either.
I am more concerned that he has anger issues
Have you considered that he is seeing threats that are not there? Was his jealousy a factor in his previous break up? Because there is nothing wrong with others admiring you when you look good. But his reaction and his anger are out of order
As he seems to have anger issues I would not confront him as that may only make him more angry.
Instead I think I would think through just how troubled he may be, observe his reactions and his behaviour and perhaps the best thing would be to allow him to go back to his ex.
She's welcome to him if he is likely to fly off the handle at any perceived threat. Over time I think he would be too difficult to live with and too volatile
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