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writes:Hi everyone,So I posted a question on here a while ago, http://www.dearcupid.org/question/fallen-in-love-with-my-best-friend.html and I guess I need some more advice lol. The advice I got was really helpful, and I realised that my friend definitely needed time to sort his head out and the best thing was for us to just continue being good friends. But I'm still having trouble dealing with the the feelings I'm having for him and the way our relationship is. We've always had quite a flirty friendship, which was completely innocent until, well, it wasn't lol. But the way he acts around me has me a little confused about what he really feels about us. Like, if we've been out with friends and we're a little bit drunk he'll walk me home with his arm around me and we'll hold hands, or for example the other day he walked me home after a night out and we hugged goodbye like always and it seemed last a little bit too long and then his hands moved um, down shall we say lol. Also he'll always pay me compliments, even if he's just joking around when he's drunk, and he always notices if I'm wearing a new dress or heels, which us girls know is unusual for even our boyfriends to notice lol. There are other things that make me wonder, for example I stayed at his house with his housemate who is a very close mutual freind and slept in his bed as he was away on holiday. I txt him when I went to bed saying 'It's weird sleeping in your bed alone lol, have a good holiday.' To which he txt back that he would and to enjoy his bed. But he then txt me again at 7 the next morning (he'd been traverlling through the night) asking how his bed was. Which doesn't seem like an innocent txt to me lol, but maybe I'm reading too much into it? And that's my problem really, If we're only ever going to be friends then I'm fine with that, he will always be one of my best friends, but these little things he says and does confuse me and give me hope of something more.I know he's not in a position for anything to happen now, he's nowhere near over his ex, but it makes me think maybe in the future we could have something. I think I just need to know, one way or the other, so that I can stop wondering and start getting over him and enjoying our friendship for what it is. I guess my question here is really, what do you think is going on here, and do you think I should just confess to him I have feelings for him so I know where I stand in all this?Thanks for taking the time to read this, I know I've rambled on a lot lol!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 September 2010):
 I think you are reading too much into things. Your friend is particularly affectionate to you...when he's drunk or tipsy, which is very common booze-induced behaviour. And as for the text exchanges, to me his comments sound friendly but not openly flirty.
After all, you know for sure he's not over his ex yet, so he would not be open to your avances. So don't say anything,at the moment. The future... the future will take care of itself,if and when he is clearly over his chance,you may try to get yourself out of the "friend zone " if you wish- but right now, what for ?
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