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writes: Hi,There is a girl in my year at school who came out and said she was bi-sexual, she got loadsa crap for it too, which was unfair. I think i maybe too, and I dont know wheter to come out and tell people or not say anything until Im sure Im bi-sexual. What should i do? X Reply to this Question
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reader, helphelp77  +, writes (19 December 2006):
no i think its best definitely not to. you should tell people when you are certain and even then, its not anyones business, especially not peers at school. tell who you want to, close friends, to convide in them and seek acceptance to show you its ok. If you find yourself in a long term stable relationship with another girl, then you will probably feel within yourself secure enough to shout it to the world, and if troubles come then you have someone whos always on your side.
good luck, take your time to experiment and see how you feel. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2006): If you don't even know that your bi for definate yet, then I would leave it. When you find out whether you're bi or not, then it's up to you whether you want to come out or not. It would be brave of you if you did come out at school, but sticking up with the crap is harder. So I wouldn't come out, remember they're the sad ones that are not respecting you for who you are, loads of people are bi. In fact 1 in 10 people are gay or bi. So what's wrong with it? You're just a normal person. Remember, if you really don't want to come out, then just go out with lads and keep your feelings for other girls to yourself. Easy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2006): I wouldn't advise you to tell anybody until u're sure. And when you are sure, i'd advise to tell only the people who matter to you, who will except you for whatever xx
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reader, willywombat +, writes (27 February 2006):
 If you dont know yet then why make yourself a target for the bullys? This is not something you need to share and I really wouldn't until you are sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2006): Why would you come and tell people at all? I mean, although it is assumed that people are straight, I don't suddenly one day decide to come and tell everyone I am straight![recess bell rings] {walks to my locker} {looks at my neighbor} "Hey, I'm straight." [neighbor stares at me and says...] "Right."[cocks brow]
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reader, smeedle +, writes (27 February 2006):
 Come out if you want to and dont if you dont, your sexuality is your own buisness and not for public knowledge.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (27 February 2006):
 Until you start having sexual relationships with both men and women, your bisexuality (or not) is really only theoretical.
Because high schoolers can be so narrow-minded, cliquish and biased, I really wouldn't recommend coming out about your sexuality to anyone except family and very close friends. Even then, there's no rush.
Having said that, it's very common for young women around your age to experiment with both sexes, and question their sexual orientation. Many think they might be bi, and then find it was kind of a phase that they grow out of (and I'm not saying you *aren't bisexual, only that you don't really know yet).
Don't be too quick to label yourself as one thing or another until you're really sure and have a few sexual relationships behind you, because in the final analysis, it doesn't matter what you call yourself. The only people who are going to care are those people who are actually in a relationship with you.
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