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writes:okayy im 14 and definitely a lesbian , have know for years , and the other day the pressure of it all was too much because i told my friedns about it but felt like i needed and adult to talk to it about ,not my family though coz i dont want them to know , so i told my headteacher whose female , about it and it felt like a massive weight lifted off my shoulder , the thing is though she said i shouldnt tell people , coz i might get bullied which i understand but the thing is , i want to beacuse i feel like im hiding part of the real me , and as im quite girly and not to sound up my self but kinda pretty and boys like me , people already suspect it because , when boys ask me out i say no , and when im asked who i fancy who i think is fit im like err no one , and i just want to know do you think i should come out to more people and be honest with people and not hide it away like its something i should be ashamed of ?? thankyou xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou every one for the advice and help its really helpful and mkes me feel more confident and beter in myself , again thankyou very much xx
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reader, kairi3811  +, writes (27 July 2011):
 You are going to get a lot of responses that you may not like. Just a heads up on that. I know I did. I am bisexual, and that was hard to admit to people, merely because I was "confused".. It is a good thing that you are proud of who you are. Don't let anyone make you feel like you are wrong or that you are just flat out weird for having an interest in girls. Personally, girls are sensitive in the feelings department where-as most men are not. I say that if you are prepared to hear the good AND bad reactions, go for it. But you have to be prepared for some people to not respond in a positive way. Make sure that you are 100% happy with yourself before you share that, because if your not, it will be so much easier for them to tear you down and make you feel like crap. I hope I was able to help a little bit and I wish you the best of luck! (:
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (27 July 2011):
 Hey. well you must understand that there are going to be people who might not agree with it and yes they could be nasty and horrible to you about it. But you see people are going to know one day, and if you ever want to date another gilr you have to come out and be confident in your sexuality. There is always going to be someone who might be mean to you about it, but as crule as the world we live in is today there is always someone who disagrees with whatever you are doing. If you are prepared to face it if people may not agree with it and you want to try your best and come out and be confident then go for it ! dont be ashamed but be prepared for what people might say if they do not like it, but don't change for them and take any of their words to heart. You never know maybe there is another girl in your school or friend group who is a lesbian too and is wondering exactly the same thing you could inspire them to come out too. And remember if by any chance some of your friends don't agree with it and fall out with you because of it then they are not real friends as a real friend despite there opinions on the situation would stick by you no matter who you are. Good luck x
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reader, missy_musk +, writes (27 July 2011):
 hunny you shouldnt have to hide who you are. il be honest you are young but when you know, you know! it is hard talking to parents about this but if they love you (and im sure they do) then they will understand! if you feel like you physically cant talk about it when why dont you write them a letter? and as for the bullying at school. children can be mean and i dont wanna sit here and tell you that they wont bully you because they are kids and kids do this. i will also say that anyone that does bully you because of this is no more then an ignorant pig that really is not worth your time so please dont let them get you down because you are a beautiful and strong woman that deserves to be happy, regardless of sexuality! xx
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reader, ButterFlyBucket4698 +, writes (27 July 2011):
If you think people should know, then go ahead and tell them. You cant help it if you like other girls, right? if they dont like it, then thats their problems, and if your friends make fun of you then i guess they arent really friends, huh? I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011): I understand what your headteacher is saying, but she's wrong - you should tell people. Its great that you're totally ok with it, as people will see that you are confident and unashamed of your sexuality, and so are unlikely to pick on you for it. As you say, its part of who you are, and you shouldn't have to hide it. You're family will find out eventually, so its probably best just to tell them. Just do it in a casual way - like dont make it into a big announcement or its more likely to become awkward. Just be brave and go for it :) Good luck! x
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