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*ay5th
writes:I have been in a relationship for over ten years. This man has nothing to offer but child care. He is extremely selfish. He has been unemployed for over three years. Refuse to work under any circumstances. He complains when ever he do a chore and expect that no one dirty things up. He hoards things that he gets because he does not want to share them. He has never paid not one bill ever. He complains about me messing up......(wait for it.....wait for it) ...... my stuff. Refuses to co-sign for anything in the house including cable. When I stuggle with bills, he just do nothing. Does not have a care in the world. My therapist thinks I should leave him. But I need him until I find a day time job. Another bad thing is his laziness and bad attitude is rubbing off on my daughter.For now, I am working on finding another job so I can kick him out. He feels like I am obligated to take care of him like a child. Believe me this is a sensitized version of my situtation. Should I find a real man on the side? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Hi
Why CHEAT on your man if you do not want him? Because you want to USE him.........Sorry the truth is the truth.
If he has nothing to offer then why do you NEED HIM while you are looking for a job before you KICK him out? Do the right thing and end the relationship properly. If you lie and cheat and use him ,then you have no moral right to talk about how bad he is. you would not want your daughter to pick up bad habits from YOU as well.
VIA CON DIOS.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (29 March 2009):
 Find your new man when you're done with the old one. If you've put up with this for this long it is partially your fault. Don't lose face by being a cheater. Get your job and then leave with your head held high./
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Don't cheat on him but kick him out and find someone worth being with. He seems like a total waste of space i'm sure you can do much better!
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Yeah, I'd cheat if the opportunity comes up but in the meantime work on getting him out of your life so you don't have too much drama added to it all. In other words, move on in a positive direction and don't let any good opportunities slip by. Never tell him though or it could have a bearing on custody. Just keep it to yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Yes, I think you should look for a different man in your life as life is too short to spend with someone who has no interest in sharing responsibilites. Although you have invested over 10 years in the relationship it is time to cut loose. Losing 10 years is hard but 11+ years is worse.
Good luck and hope it all works out
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