Should I call it quits over my boyfriend getting high?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I've been dating this guy for a year that I knew smoked blunts(get high) when I met him. I never asked him to quit cold turkey or even quit at all. I know its hard and he has to do it for himself. I just ask out of respect for me cause Im not a smoker and I hate the smell and the effects it has. I asked him not to smoke in my presents or come around me high. Well he doesnt do it when we are alone or when he comes to my house hes not high but recently when we go to his family or friends events which some of them get high. They ask him if he wants to smoke and so he does cause his cousins or friends talk about him not being a man cause he doesnt smoke around me. I really care about him but I feel like he's putting what others think and say before me. I've talked to him before on how I feel disrespected when he does it cause he knows how I feel about him being high around me. He made the comment its not like I'm high aound you all the time and that it should be ok for him to do it if we are out in public. Should I just call it quits or What should I do?

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