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writes:I wrote my ex boyfriend an email telling him exactly what I feel for him and he hasn't responded. The email was basically telling him that I can't be friends with him because im still in love him ( he's married).I just want to know that he's read the email and understands why I have to do this for real this time; we have tried this many times before but I always go back. I really dont think I should call him but I want to know that he's taken me seriously. There was a time last year I sent him a txt breaking up with after a arguement. I didn't hear from him for a week but when I did see him he started hugging and kissing me like nothing happened. When I asked him if he got the txt, he said that he did but just deleted it because he knew I wasn't serious.we really do have a strong bond but I need to move on and want him out of my life which is hard to do because we work together.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (6 March 2009):
 Dont call him, dont email again, try not to see him ever again. If you are serious this time that you want to move on and get him out of your life, then delete any form of contact you have with him. Remove his email address, delete his number, take him off facebook/myspace etc. Even change your number if you have to. Because if you have those ways of contacting him still around you, then one day you will give in to the temptation and think "I'll just send a quick text to say hi etc" and this will take you right back to where you began.
I had to do this with my ex - I wanted him back so badly but he didnt want to give us another go, yet we would talk all the time. One day I just got so fed up with being in love with someone who didnt want me that I changed my mobile number and didnt tell him. He could still be calling my old number for all I know, but it doesnt matter now because I am free from his hold he had over me. It is a really hard step to take but it works, I promise.
If you cannot bring yourself to do this then you are not taking your own decision seriously, and you cant expect him to take you seriously when you do not believe it yourself.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, vmadman  +, writes (6 March 2009):
This one is easy, in fact you answered your own question.
You went from "I can't be friends" to "should I call him?".
Of course not... don't call him, and don't hug him. It's sounds to me like you're not even taking yourself seriously, how can you expect him to?
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