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writes:I am 30 and just broke up with my bf 5 days ago. We've had several arguments over the 5 months of our relationship and this time, it seemed like we both had enough of arguying and he decided it was best for him to go. He loves me but because we have issues on how quickly our relationship is evolving (too fast for me), he asked me not to contact him ever again. No email, no sms, no call, he even said he would erase my contact info from his phone. Although before leaving he gave me a note that said that he would always be thinking of me. 5 days have passed and I've been doing nothing except think about him and stay in bed all day. I am dying to contact him again and talk. I feel like things ended too abruptly. But at the same time I couldn't deal with all the arguments and blame for not telling him I love him enough. It is like a love/hate relationship, I've never had one before, but it is really tough. I don't know what to do but I'm having issues letting him go. What should I do? I am torn between waiting for him to contact me, contacting him or not doing anything and trying to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): I have been just dumped in exactly the same way. I am waiting for her to call cause it was her choice that not to put up with things any longer. I am only giving her the room she requires to feel positive about her desicion and if she doesn't she knows my email to get a hold of me. I am trying to respect her desicion and life choices. She is also 10 years older than me and lives 100 klm away from me. I felt her to be the right one for me.
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reader, Ted-ster  +, writes (7 June 2009):
Don't contact him. You'll start the grieving process all over again. You ended it maturely. Ending relationships is hard. Don't prolong it. Sounds like you both made the right decision, and you feel pain for a while, less intensely over time. You'll feel better when you meet someone new. My sage advice is don't contact him.
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