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41-50,
*upid lover
writes:Hi there,last week I went to dinner at a friend's house. This friend used to be my boss and I met my current boyfriend through her. There were a few women at the dinner party and the topic of conversation got onto sex. I said that I won't do 69ers because of various reasons and they asked me if I do anal. I said sometimes it is nice. My old boss looked at me with disgust. Now, the thing is that I haven't had anal sex with the man I am currently seeing (my bosses friend) and don't intend on it at least not in the near future. It is something that I did a long time ago and I did not make that clear at the dinner party. So, now I am worried that it is going to get back to him and also I worry that she thinks I do that kind of thing all of the time when I don't! She likes gossip.So do you think that I should call her and set the record straight or do I just leave it alone?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (3 September 2012):
 Me too. I know the feeling.
Most welcome and thank you for the feedback.
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reader, cupid lover +, writes (3 September 2012):
cupid lover is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. I am an extremely private person so when I let things like this slip I get very paranoid. I agree with everything that you have posted and will not bring it up at all.Thanks again
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reader, ooluvbug4oo  +, writes (3 September 2012):
I agree I would just leave it alone if they asked you about it they are the ones that are curious about that specific subject and you were just being honest. You are defenitely not the only one that has ever done it and even if she put a face she is no one to judge because she was open enough to be at the table listening to everyone talking about the same thing. If she would have really been that disgusted or offended then she would have left the table.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (3 September 2012):
Agreed. In fact calling her up would make things worse. What you said will fade rfom memory. Calling her up would bring it to the forefront and harder to forget. It would also let her know that her opinion is far more important to you than it should be.
What you said is not the worst thing in the world. You're not growing a third arm. You haven't done anything that millions of others haven't already done all over the world. If anyone else ever brings it up, act confident and casual. Most people are followers and will treat something the way you treat it. Even if they think it odd, if you don't seem phased by their reaction they'll move on to another topic that much sooner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2012): Sweetheart you are grown if you want to take it in your ear that's your business.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 September 2012):
 I would leave it alone. I don't think you owe her an explanation at all on the subject.
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