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writes:I have a question about male performance. I was married for 16 years, and my husband never really satisfied me. His age was 24-39 and mine 33-48 at the time. He could easily become erect, but then as we had sex, he could only keep thrusting for about 15 seconds, and then he would have to stop, motionless, or he'd climax. This would happen a repeatedly, 3-5 times and I'd always just tell him to let go, because I knew all the stopping and starting would never have got me anywhere. I loved him so much that I never questioned him or made any deal of it. I had an O maybe twice with him, in 16 years. I want to know if this was normal for a man's performance, as I hadn't been with many men before I met him. I don't need to know what I should have done or not done, because he is long gone. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all the responses. I always thought he had an unusually low sex drive and I was confused by this PE. He made me feel like I was the one with the problem.
Eddie85, your answers are certainly legitimate, but as I said, he is long gone and not in my life. I couldn't care less if he 'gets better' or not. I only asked, for my own reference.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (4 September 2012):
 Some guys do have this problem. I don't know what the exact percentage is, but it is called premature ejaculation.
If you are still with him and you need to have it addressed, there are a few things you can do:
1) Have him see a doctor. There are medicines, creams, and techniques that he can use to control his PE.
2) Have him wear a condom. That will reduce the friction and should allow him to last a bit longer
3) If he is having problems satisfying you, have him perform oral sex on you.
4) Have him practice kegel exercises. This will strengthen the muscles down there which should enable him to have a bit more control over his PE.
5) Use extra lube. If there is less friction down there, he'll be less likely to have this problem.
6) Extend foreplay. If you get him hard and he enters you right away, chances are he is going to climax right away. Some foreplay should reduce his need for immediate ejaculation.
7) Have him masturbate an hour or two before sex. Sometimes being on "half empty" will prolong his ability.
As you can see there are a variety of things you can dry. Hopefully one of them will work for you.
Good luck.
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reader, grymsoul +, writes (3 September 2012):
 I use to be this guy, mainly because she was my first and everything about her was just perfect. I found it hard to keep from prematurely ejaculating. I read some articles on the web and basically what they advised me to do was go slowly at first, get used to the motions and sensation of being inside her. It will also help if your partner is patient with you so as not to create any insecurities of emotional stress.
He should also want you to reach out and lightly squeeze his testicles when he is close to cumming. It will stave off his finish. With practice he will get better.
In a years time, we still didn't have sex as often as we wanted to but I was able to go from a minute man to an hour plus lover. It was to the point where she would quit about 45 mins in and say that she was completely drained. Believe it or not, we had a totally different complaint. She said that I needed to come a lot sooner than an hour. It's starting to feel like a workout now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2012): Yes men who suffer from premature ejaculation use this technique to delay ejaculation. There are many causes for P.E such as worry,tension, tiredness, being physically unfit, too much masturbation before marriage, so on, so on...
However he could have made you climax by other means which most guys do, such as oral,stroking of the clitoris before actually commencing intercourse. Anyway as you say, it is in the past now. best luck next time.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (3 September 2012):
 It depends. If it's been a while since he's had sex, PE is hardly unusual. If you've done it several times in a short interval and he's still having trouble holding off, then it sounds more like 'clinical' PE. It differs for the same man depending upon age, level of arousal, and a whole bunch of other factors.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (3 September 2012):
 Well i don't think that is normal for a man. Most of us do fairly well, and thrust for 15-20 minutes or so.
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