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writes: Got approached on the train by this girl who gave me her number, I called her up and we started talking. She told me how she had been checking me out for like two months and that she wanted us to get together, everything was going good. We called each other like 4 or 5 days straight even though most of it was quick conversation or phone tag because of our busy schedules but I called her up even if it was to just to say hello. Well for two days I didn’t hear from her and I called her up to see how she was. I had rescheduled our plans to hang out because I had canceled them the previous week due to work and she said okay we can hang out and now it’s been like almost a week and a half and I haven’t heard from her and she never called to hook up. Was she really interested in me, should I play myself fool and call her up or let her be the one to call me. And if I see or hear form her what should I do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Bill23 +, writes (15 March 2006):
Bill23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo because I had to get my work hours straight so that I won't be working 3pm to 11:30 pm and then turn around with maybe 2 hours of sleep be back at the airport 3am to 11:30am She doesn't want anything to do with me anymore is lame. I understand that she put herself out there telling me how she liked me and all and that it was all up to me to follow through but my money and my health with getting as little sleep that I do during the week is my first priority. Just like she has a kid if something comes up with her daughter she would have done the same thing. At least I call her back after not hearing form her in 2 days to set up a date with her. If she wanted to be with me like she said then she would have come through on getting together because it was her idea, how is she going to flip the script on me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2006): I think it was pretty brave of her to approach you. Most women wouldn't. She's already put herself out there, so I think it's up to you now. The fact that you cancelled plans with her puts her in a vulnerable position. She may be thinking that you aren't really interested in seeing her and that you're making excuses, etc.
If you really want to see her, you as the man should act as such. Take the initiative and call her to ask her out, not just to chit-chat, but to make plans. Many guys make the mistake of asking IF a girl would like to "hang out" and then leave it up to the girl to do the leg work. If you want to date her, ask for a date. This way there's no confusion and you'll live up to being the man she thinks you are.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (14 March 2006):
 I would look at it like this - if she is playing games, forget her, if she does it now imagine if you dated her.
Or she is not interested and in that case, she is an idiot because you sound like a great guy and find someone who deserves you.
i would leave it, the ball is well and truly in her court now.
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reader, Aunt Sally +, writes (13 March 2006):
 It sounds like she does not know what to do and is behaving quite childishly. You have every right to introduce friends to her. She needs to grow up and act like an adult. i think it better that she does that with someone else - you need your own life and to share it with someome who respects you for who you are. Stop chasing her!
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reader, Bill23 +, writes (13 March 2006):
Bill23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy thing is, if she didn’t want anything to do with me anymore she should have told me instead of acting like this. Come to think of it there was one time that I came up to her section where she worked, my friend was with me because he drove me up there were she was at to get equipment for our next flight we had to work on. Maybe she was mad at the fact that he was up there because I remember one conversation with her when she talking to me and just stopped the conversation and asked was I with my friends. Maybe that’s another reason why she hasn’t called. She must have thought I was trying to show her to my friend when I wasn’t.
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reader, Aunt Sally +, writes (13 March 2006):
I would put this one down to experience. Don't call her. If she really wanted to see you or speak to you, she would find time, no matter how busy her schedule was. If she calls you, keep it cool. I think she is playing with you. Find someone who wants to be with you too, not just someone playing games.Good luck!
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