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writes:Hi, I have a dilema and don't know what i should do.I've been apart from my ex for 5 mos. In that time, we haven't spoken, since I broke up w/ her, she's cut her hair short, and while occasionally being polite, she's not really calling me etc..before all this, i was the man she wanted to marry, she was deeply in love...ok, the problem? well, we used to work together, and met that way. A friend called me to tell me he saw her about 3 weeks ago, talking to another old friend. She doesnt' work there for years now, and my friend said she looked like she was pregnant, or really fat, and that she looked like she had been or was crying or upset...now, there is no reason for her to go to the store where people who know us as a couple would obviously tell me...and my friend is trustworthy....this could and probably is all nothing, but HELP!! do i contact her and ask to talk with her? if she was pregnant, and showing, it may or not be mine, since the last time we were intimate would have been 5 mos. prior...but the crying etc...and talking to the girl in the old store...was this an attempt to get the word out?She hasn't phoned me since that time, so maybe it's nothing...but, it could be, since my friend was so concerned, he tried to call me immediatetly after the visti, but i was away....help...what do i do? call her and ask her if there is anything wrong? go to see her face to face to see for myself??? if she were pregnant w/ my baby, i must say, i'd be a happy man..i still love her....
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reader, cristin343 +, writes (15 November 2007):
 Don't do it. it sounds like she has gone through a difficult time because of thebreakup. If you call her, you will interrupt her healing process. BUT! if you find out for certain that she is pregnant definately reach out to her. that is the best thing to do. i hope for both of your sakes that she is not!!!
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (11 November 2007):
 Hi there.
Shaim - it is very sweet of you to still care for her in this way. Only one way to find out, and that is to go see her face to face. Let her know, as soon as you see her that you are not there for ANY other reason, but to see if she's okay. Don't imply anything about a pregnancy, or her getting fat, as this might only upset her.
Ask her how she's been, and listen, to every word she has to say. Show endearment, and love, and if you feel it is right, then tell her that you still love her, and would like to make things work. Either way, just show her that she can trust you, and be there for her..
Good luck, let us know what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): aha go see her face to face to see for your self this way she could not lie to you cuz if you called her she mite lie to you so go for it and hope she will be pregnent with your baby..
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (11 November 2007):
 I think that you should contact her. I don’t think she was trying to tell you about a pregnancy in an indirect way, she probably would have told you directly if that was so. On the other hand I don’t know how or why you broke up, maybe she feels she had reasons not to tell you. In any case I think you should contact her to check up on her. It is not wrong to show concern for her. Also, if you don’t, you might go crazy thinking about this and not knowing. Go and see how she is. She will be glad you cared for her, and you will have peace at mind. And if you still love her, it could be a good time to maybe sort things out.
Good luck, tell us how it goes!
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