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writes:My boyfriend is SUPER shy, and I don't know why! Like before we started going out we would talk ALL the time and now its just like...i dont even know. When he is around his friends he talks all the time and is really funny! And i like him alot, but now when he is around me he won't even talk to me bearly! And he won't like put his arm around me or anything! When we went to the movies, he didn't talk or do anything! All he did was sit there and not even talk to me the WHOLE time! And whenever we are leaving, I am always the one who has to go up to him to give him a hug, its not like he just comes up to me and gives me a hug. It doesn't even feel like we are going out, or that he even likes me! He is the one who asked me out and when i said yes, his friends told me he was super happy :) He goes to a different school than me so I only see him twice a week which realy stinks..I mean we talk all the time like texting and stuff but in person its just like....he wont even speak. Why is he so shy and what can i do about it? Does he even like me? I mean I really want him to treat me like I am loved, but I don't know why he wont I mean if he didn't wouldn't he just break up with me????????? Helppppthanks =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): hey my bf is just like that to exept we go to the same school but then i cunfrunted him he said he was sorry and then he said he was sorry then we could not stop huging and kissing
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): Hey, i totally understand where your comming from i have the exact same problem with my boyfriend xcept we go to the same school so its like ??? i went out with him before and it just got to a point where i couldnt handle just acting like friends when we are actually going out so i broke up with him ... WORST THING IVE EVER DONE! so pleese stay with him youll just end up missing way to much and hurting both of yuse. like on of my good friends his one of his good friends as well, and he goes to me all the time, are you sure he knows youse are going out you might wanna let him no, but all his friends say that i need to like take control but im not the mosst confident person out there, im pre insecure about everything, so i find it heaps hard to like talk to him, i mean i even ask my mum she just like talk to him, but its not that easy, i no this probably isnt any help but im in the same situation as yu, but one of my friends is going out with a guy she was in pre much the same situation as us but theyve been going out for a while now and he and her are sooo much mor confident, i think it just takes time so just wait it out and see i spose that all yu can rele do, coz talkin to them is hard, and thats wat every ones answer is, just talk to them, its like are yuh even listening hes shyyy!, but seriously i think you jst need to give it abit more time, and as for the person say all this shizz about him using you and then that he really likes yu, just think if yu can trust the person who is saying it, and if not, dont listen but mayybe ask his friends????
i hope this helps.. ill b watching this hoping for sum help with my problem too, that one from the guy up there is heaps helpful coz yu no where its comming from ayee
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reader, kkcheers4u +, writes (27 March 2009):
Don't feel like it's only you, because my boyfriend is the exact same way. We text all the time like for hours at a time and talk about anything and everything, but we go to the same school and he STILL doesn't speak to me. Like I might see him in the hallway and joke around with him about something that just happened but thats pretty much all. My solution to my boyfriend is that considering im his 1st girlfriend ever he might just be really shy to open up. But don't break up with this guy just because hes a little shy, that's just how males can be. And you might regret breaking up with him for a long time also. My advice is to just start up a conversation with him when y'all are on a date. You be the one to take charge because guys like that in a girl. Ask him for the next date if you could both go see this scary movie ur dying to see!! It will give you an excuse to sit closer to him and even grab his hand in the super scary parts. But dont worry I have the same problem!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Hey, I hope you read this, maybe it's possible that he has 'social anxiety' which means he gets really quiet around people he dosen't know for a long time. Visit 'Social Anxiety.com' and look under 'selective speaking' or being mute. Mabye this is alot to swallow right now, but maybe it could help him in being more out going. There are other sites too, just type in shyness, and SA in your browser, really hopes this helps, cheers! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): my life story...my boyfriend and i have been together for 8months now and he "freezes" because he gets nervous. Just talk to him about it and take control.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008): OKAY so this is the person who asked this question - Ya, my friend was talking to him and she asked him why he was sooo shy and if he even liked me? And he replied back to that with "because I just am and duhhhhh" I dont even really know though. He said hi to me in church today but after that when the service was over he like totally dissappeared! I mean again, i only see him twice a week.........so its like ya that was once and now just one more time during the week. I mean I really like him alot and everything...but i've heard that other ppl said he doesn't even like me..and he might be using me!? ugghhhh! idk. but then the same person said that he really does like me. and im really confused. its like i dont wanna dump him....but then again i do..bcuz all we act like is friends! :( and talking to him about it wud just be weird...cuz he is shy. lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): OMG! My boyfriend was exactly the same! It's like reading my life story! Anyway, I asked him about it and he told me he really like me but was just shy. I dumped him a few days after cos I just couldn't take anymore of acting like friends! I really hurt him though - and I made a big mistake dumping him. Please don't make the same mistake as me - keep going. Talk to him and work at your relationship. Hope I helped :)xxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): AHHH, well this is how i was with my girlfriend at first. I think you need to make conversation with him, talk to him about what he likes and stuff. Just don't ask questions that can freak him out; FInd out from his friends what's wrong...:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): I think he's just shy now. Try maybe having fun with him taking it back a step. Perhaps on one of the days you spend with him you could do something as a group of friends where you spend time with him and his friends. Try something like ice skating, bowling or a fairground. They are good places for conversation to develop too. You don't need to cling to him all day either as his girlfriend just remember to have fun, you are only young!
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reader, petina1  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 It's his age. Many boys that age are super shy. As he gets to know you he will losen up a bit. It's all new to him the fat that he has a girlfriend now he's probably feeling out of his depth. It must have taken a lot of courage to ask you out so that must show that he really really does like y ou. Time and patience getting to know each other will make him more confident with you. Try going somewhere where you can have a laugh and let him release some tension with you. Bowling, swimming, theme park. hope this helps.
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reader, dumdeedum +, writes (29 November 2008):
hiya :)aww bless him, if hes shy around you and not his friends it sounds to me that he really likes you!but i would confront him and ask him why he is so shy around you, if he has had other girlfriend before was he like this with her?if he was, its just a thing he has, but if he wasnt then i would talk to him and see whats on his mind!hope this helps! xxx
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