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writes:I'm going out with a boy from the year above who really likes me and I kinda like him. He kept asking me out for months and has liked me for a year I think.The only problem is he gets jelous easily, but tries to hide it, coz I have lots of guy friends. He's also kinda clingy but hopelessly sweet and cute. But I hate it when he gets insecure and assumes I'm gonna dump him.But the major problem is I'm still unconditionaly and irrevocably in love with one of my friends who I've liked for three years who hasn't spoken to me for 9 months, which has shattered me, he also likes one of my best mates. I don't care about going out with him at this point I just want him back as my best friend.It's tearing me appart I don't know wether to break up with this boy. He doesn't know I still like the other boy but it feels really awkward when I'm around him so I don't know if we should continue to see each other.Should I break up with him? If so where, when and how? I'm so confused and it's killing me... I thought it was hard when I was single but now I'm not sure...
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reader, mfreeman77  +, writes (3 August 2009):
 Clingy and jealous may seem cute at the outset, but eventually it will become a huge problem. Yes, you should break up with him. I wrote an article on the subject of clingy boyfriends here:
http://www.scribd.com/doc/17621774/Need-to-Breakup-With-a-Controlling-Boyfrienddoc
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): It is not fair for anyone in a relationship if there is emotional unfaithfulness. It isn't really fair to string him along when you are in love with someone else.
And you said it's annoying when he always thinks you're going to dump him, but.. you have been thinking about it haven't you? So isn't he partially justified in his fear? If you're going to have a lot of guy friends, i would get used to the jealousy. Most people are likely to get at least a little jealous at times but we just have to work through that until full trust is established.
As for where, when , and how... you'll have to do that on your own unfortunately. It's best to use your own words and do it sincerely and in the way that you seem best according to what his needs as a person are.
goodluck.
~Sy.
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reader, chrissy32789  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 Yes you should break up with him, why be with him if you dont want to the longer you wait the more it will hurt him when you finally do break up with him, you should break up with him where there is no one else around, and just tell him that you just want to be friends and tell him why you dont want to be with him any more..good luck
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (23 July 2009):
It sounds like it will hurt him but you still owe him the truth. He may even be a little upset but nothing can replace the truth. Yes you should break up with him. Be stern with your stance but still compassionate to his feelings. Do not stay with him because you fear breaking his heart. Broken hearts are a part of life.
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reader, kurtyz +, writes (23 July 2009):
 wow! this guy sounds like me a lot but anyway i think you should go somewhere private with him and say look im so so sorry but thins just isn't working out any more but can we still please be friends? ok so goodluck
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