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writes:We just started dating about 3 months ago but feel like EVER cause we live together basically in the barracks, and I have already caught him in mulitiple lies and oh i cant forget i even caught him across the hall in another girls room in the barracks. (I'm in the Army and stationed overseas.) I love this guy dearly but I just dont think i can take his lieing anymore but i just cant seem to let him go. Please explain to me why this guy lies and continues to do so even after he knows that i know the truth? How many chances can you really give a person to change? Here let me give you some examples: I found him on some online site for singles questioning females what they like and are into. But when you ask him what my favorite flower is he wont be able to answer. I got off work one morning during a weekend where he went out with his buddies and came home and found him in the room with the girl across the hall from me. and he swears up and down nothing happen. i had to pretend to be him on his cell phone and messege this girl to find out what had happen. He layed in bed with her and kissed her and when i confronted him he still lied to me. looked me in the eyes and lied. and then finally he told me the truth after i kept on him. and just today, he told me that he deleted those sites for singles, when he really didnt. i was able to get on his profile and see messeges just sent out to this one girl just a few days ago. He tells me that he loves me and that he wants to make things work. when i ask him why he lies to me he tells me cause hes just use to lieing or "i dont know" So what can i do to get him to stop lieing to me? I know the smart thing to do is to let him go. but thats easily said then done. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): Hey Girl, I feel you my mans isn't in the military but he is a compulsive lier. We have been together for 8 years ans have 1 child and still lies all the time. I have caught him in so many lies its unbelievable, why I am still with him I don't know. But I know it is easier said than done but you need to leave him. You can't teach an old dog new tricks. I tell you this from experience, girl take care of yourself because he isn't going to take care of you. Maybe one of these days I'll take my own advice. God bless and keep your head up high theres better fish int he sea!!LOL
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): Hi Hun,
Im going to tell you to leave him, He is no good for you and if you stay your self asteem will disapear with your confidence sweetheart he isnt going to change and no matter I feel how much you talk with him he is just going to be more clever in the future so you dont catch him out.
This relationship hunny is a one way thing I no its hard but you have to do something it sounds as if he is taking the p**s out of you and Id boot him right out the door.
PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, rcn +, writes (4 October 2007):
 I'd say send him packing. I don't know why you put up with this. When you do it's almost like saying "i approve of this behavior." So he wants to make things work, did he mention if that was with or without bringing his flings along for the ride. He says he's just use to being lied too, I would have answered "OK, but that still doesn't explain why you lied to me."
I'm believe he's stringing you along. He's a military man whore. If he really loved you and wanted it to work out, he wouldn't be doing what he has been doing. He'd be with you, respecting the relationship you have with him and not kissing or doing other things with other girls. No matter what his excuse if for all this behavior, what he does is his choice. Even if someone else lies to him, does not justify why he does so to you.
This really does sound like one of the guys that tells you just enough that you want to hear to keep you around while he goes out and does whatever and whoever he chooses to.
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