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writes:So i am the sweetest person anyone can meet..evryone who i have ever encountered tells me that i am nice and i am really kindhearted. I am willing to be devoted to someone, care about them and be faithful...so i dnt understand why guys wont make me their gurlfriend..ive never had a boyfriend..im not ugly,,becuse people usually are saying that i am very beutiful and sexy. I am willing to be devoted and faithful to whoever i meet. i am not even sexually active..but every time i meet a guy..he never wnts to be my boyfriend...shuld i become a meaner person...or more loud and outspoken just 2 be loved.? some people had my question misinterpreted..im really not concieted...im pretty cool and down to earth..im actually quiet..and once u really get to know me im pretty goofy..lol and i really dont go boastin around about how much i am..datz juz how i feel inside.....some guys dont even get a chance to really get to know me...im willing to offer so much..datz why i asked shuld i b loud and mean to get someone to love me//?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): WOW! that's cool to bad you don't live in wisconsin problaby. You seem like a nice girl and that's sexy there are not alot of girls who are virgin's either so take pride in that. But i hope you don't reject guys becuase of their looks becuase i actually no a girl who is just like you and she is very shallow. But everyone is different. Please don't go out with an a**hole becuase you will feel miserable. Basically don't change yourself you said your quiet that maybe why guys don't ask you out they may think that your insecure with yourself but even if you were quiet i still would go out with you. But don't change you obviously seem like a nice girl and guys respect that trust me i am a guy. I really wish there were more girls like you out there!
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (28 April 2008):
 Why would you want to be mean? Thats only gonna make people not like you and if you do meet someone who is attracted to mean people...well he's probably not gonna be the nicest guy in the world is he? So why would you want him?
I don't think its possible to be too nice but dont determine your lifes success by how many boyfriends you have or havent had. Theres so much more to life than that. Just keep being you and have fun and dont stress about men. The right guy will come along eventually so you wanna be single for meeting him, not stuck in a relationship with a guy you dont really want and who doesnt know the real you all because you dont wanna be sinle.
Brooke
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reader, gayuncleandy  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 There is a shadow side of yourself yet to establish itself in your personality, that is why you are asking this question. You can't describe yourself like that and not be a bit of a bitch somewhere in there (after all isn't that what you are implying other people are?). Be patient, be sweetness and light, but don't deny your other feelings too. People are attracted to people who are well rounded, and that means shadows and light.
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reader, deviant81  +, writes (27 April 2008):
theres no need to change who you are. I changed myself for my boyfriend but i changed in a way that brought out the femnine side to myself. Its true that u might scare some guys off with the long term interest that u seem to have whether u mean to or not thats the way it comes across.. you might be too full on emotionally for just a random guy. hold yourself back a bit when you meet a guy and then slowly let youself go into your loving self as they get to know you this way its not all ILL ALWAYS BE HERE FOR U!
maybe look for guys in a different place. for example if ur out clubbing or something then dont expect to meet guys that way...just go out with the girls and find a different group of guys...go for someone you wouldnt normally look at and see how they react to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): I have exactly the same problems. NEVER EVER CHANGE WHO YOU ARE JUST TO BE ''LOVED'', if a guy doesn't fall for you as you are then its his loss. maybe being more ''outgoing'' would help you but dont turn slutty or anything, just talk to lots of guys and once ya get a bf, stay loyal but keep it spicy.
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reader, pinkfairy +, writes (27 April 2008):
 hello
you should never change of who u are just to get a guy theres alot out there they say one 4 evryone but im sure mr right will come coz u got yur hole live ahead of yh just wait be yur self and some1 will fall in love with tht not all men like pretty girls they like girls with nice persnality its what i call the best thing of any1 :) good luck xxxx
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Be yourself.
If he loves you for something you're not - something you are trying to be just to please him - then sooner or later it will all go wrong and you will lose him.
A lasting relationship will only happen if he loves you for what you really are and you love him for what he is. That doesn't mean you shouldn't consider his likes and dislikes and do your best to behave in a way you know he is going to like, and certainly he should do the same for you, but trying to be something that isn't really you is a recipe for disaster.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Sure you could chance your own nature to suit a guy, if you are a really good actress and want to do that for the rest of your life.
It might be easier to ask yourselve if you are not attracted to the wrong kind of guy. Somehow I get the impression you are the type of girl who would love to get married young and settle down etc etc. If this is correct men spot this and if they don't want that, they won't come near you. Now there are men your age who DO want a girl like you, but you might have to look harder for them, even take the initiative to find them. The players, the guys who approach girls and ask them out constantly just ain't the type who want a girl as you describe yourselve.
Stop worrying, there is someone for everyone, enjoy your life and just keep an eye open for the right guy to come along. No sexual relations yet? So? It ain't a race, what would you rather be, lots of sexual experience of being used by the wrong kind of guy, or be a 30 year old virgin getting married to your true love.
You can't make someone love you, but you can most certainly put yourselve out their to be used, just read 99% of the questions by other women.
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reader, Midge +, writes (27 April 2008):
 First things first, DONT EVER CHANGE WHO YOU ARE FOR ANY MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You are so young, why would you even consider changing who you are for anyone. If you are not a bad person and as nice as you say, then wait till the right person comes along that is going to love you for you, not for how loud and mean you can be. Most men dont like mean woman, confident woman yes, but not mean woman.
You have so much time ahead of you to find Mr Right, dont rush it. Its when you rush it you tend to find "Mr I wish Id never met you"! Trust me, been there, done that, got the outfit never mind the T shirt!
Just be patient! Its always so much better when you find Mr Right who loves you for you!!!!!!!
Dont change for anyone! You'll regret it!
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