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writes:well im 20 and a virgin and i wont be afraid to admit im nervous to have sex, mainly just scared that when we are going at it, ill be so nervous that ill hold myself back and not be able to climax :/ its not like im completely inexpereinced, ive had sexual experiences. just nothing to the point where i climax. and im afraid that during sex ill be to nervous to do so. Reply to this Question
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reader, peeptoe +, writes (19 November 2010):
Based on what guys have told me, men don't usually have a problem their first time. If you are having intercourse, i've been told it can be a rather overwhelming sensation and most guys climax whether they want to or not! Assuming, as others have said, that you are with someone you trust--and hopefully care about each other--you should be able to relax and enjoy the experience. If you are both inexperienced, try to at least be knowledgeble (lots of books and articles out there on how to have a good experience). Try to relax each other and be honest and guide each other. Also, it might be easier to do other sexual things to climax to build up to intercourse. This is nothing new in the world--billions of people before you have gone through this. Relax and let it happen.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Most girls don't climax their first time due to a combination of inexperience, first time nerves, possibly pain and everything else that comes with losing your virginity.
Don't worry about not climaxing. It may actually take you a few times before you even get there at all.
What you should make sure is that you're having sex for the right reasons and with someone you trust and love.
Also ask yourself if perhaps you're nervous for other reasons? Maybe your subconscious is telling you that you're not ready but you're trying to play it off as nerves to do with climaxing? Just some things to think about.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Hey twenty years old and a virgin, that's awesome. Don't worry about sex stuff, it will happen when it's the right time and you feel more comfortable with it. I rushed myself and now I really wish I would have waited for the right guy (the one i'm with now). With that being said, wait until you are comfortable and when you find someone that you truly want to be intimate with then you won't be nervous and if you are, that person will understand and guide you through it.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (19 November 2010):
This is a never ending cycle. You feel nervous about having sex so you constantly worry about your performance which leads to even more nerve when having sex which in turn leads to not climaxing...
Its seriously all in your head. The more you convince yourself you're nervous, the more you second guess it.
Ask yourself this; do you even want to have sex? If you're only having it because you feel "Hey I'm 20, I should be having sex," you probably feel the pressure to do so and you're giving up the passion.
Do it when it feels right for you. Once the moment is the right one, you'll be able to do it, because you'll really want it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): I think you should be more worried about her climaxing than you. Most men pretty much always do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2010): Heehee..don't worry. Just relax and don't get nervous.
I am your same age and I have only had one encounter but I am still a virgin. Don' t worry, that one time I was nervous and scared...i messed everything up...
Good luck!!
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