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*ylan McK
writes:This is a very complicated problem, im not sure where to start. My best friend for 10 years is in love with my ex. It isn't a crush, he loves her like he has never loved anything else. I was genuinley happy that he did, because she deserves that after some bad relationships shes had since we split up. But she doesn't like him in that way, and i asked her myself she said "I don't think about Robert like that" so we decided i should tell him. Also Robert was extremley terrified that my ex is going to start doing drugs, i asked her to promise that she wouldn't, she said she couldn't keep that promise. And then we decided that she should stop having contact with Rob. This also means no contact with me. This was one of the hardest decision i've ever made. So i had to tell Robert that She can't be with him, and that she will start doing drugs. What i want to know is: Will Rob ever get over her? Have i done the right thing? Am i still a good friend for this? This has been so stressful to Robert hes been losing, sleep, hair, and attendance. Please help.
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reader, muffy  +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Well hun,in my opinion you both made a smart choice.Leaving that girl may have seemed hard,but staying friends with her while she was doing them would've been worse.She would've been outta her mind and anything could've happend.She coulda said she liked one of you guys and not meant it because she was spun outta her mind.She coulda tried hooking up with one of you.Anything coulda went wrong and it would've been worse to deal with.Rob will eventually move on in time.Time heals all.Just remember that.You should move on too.Don't dwell on it too much.I hope everything works out for you both.If you need anything just lemme know.
Love and kisses,
Muffy33
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (19 November 2010):
 Rob probably shouldn't be with her anyway if she can't promise to stay away from drugs, that's not really something you or anyone for that matter should get involved in as it's a dangerous road.
He will eventually move on. People can't help how they feel or if they don't share feelings that other people have for them. Everything will work itself out.
You are a good friend, I think anyway, because you were honest about the situation and didn't lie to your friend. And also, you are kind of protecting him from further heart ache because a significant other with a drug problem is extremely difficult to deal and cope with.
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