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writes:I am 18, in first year university. My girlfriend is almost 17, in her last year of highschool. We've been dating since August and had sex twice. The first time, which was the FIRST time for both of us, we used a condom, and it seemed like it was okay. Last week, we did not use a condom. She said it would be okay because she takes 'the pill'. But I am still worried and definitely wish we would have... played safer. But whats done is done, and I can't turn back time.Also, I know that it was during, or very shortly after she had her period. Does this have any effect on the likelyhood of her getting pregnant?I'm in my qualifying year for engineering which is HARD, and all this worrying is not helping. Should I be so worried? I want to ask her to take a pregnancy test, but she's on holiday for the weekend, and its kind of a hard thing to ask for anyways.And, if she is pregnant, what do I do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 November 2011):
 stop worrying...
if she is on birth control pills ("the pill") she's probably NOT pregnant.
if this happened a week ago a pregnancy test won't work yet..
and here's the way to figure out a woman's FERTILE time... while not an exact science..it's a good rule of thumb:
a woman is ovulating approximately TWO WEEKS after the start of her last period (a woman on the pill does not ovulate and that's why she can't get pregnant)
two weeks after she ovulates and does not get pregnant she will get a period
sperm can impregnate an egg in about a 6 day window btw, 3 days before she ovulates up to 3 days after she is fertile...
I strongly suggest that you familiarize yourself with female reproductive anatomy and cycle so that you can relax a bit.
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reader, Placebogirl  +, writes (27 November 2011):
 I think its very unlikely that she is pregnant.
I haven't used a condom with my boyfriend for a year and a half because I am on the pill and neither of us have STIs. I have not become pregnant during this time as the pill is a reliable form of birh control.
However if you want to be extra safe i would use a condom as well because no form of birth control is 100% effective therefore using both would ensure she does not become pregnant.
If she does not have her next period I would suggest taking a pregnancy test, untill then I wouldnt worry!
If she is pregnant you both need to discuss the options, and how you will both support the baby if you decide to keep it.
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reader, bluecow +, writes (27 November 2011):
 HiyaIf she is on the pill, and IF she is taking it as prescribed then the chances of her falling pregnant are very slim indeed (1% ish). The protection offered, drops dramatically if she wasnt taking the pill correctly, had an upset stomach OR was taking another medication which can interfere with the contraception (e.g. antibiotics). For most women their most fertile period is in the middle if their cycle, however it does vary woman to woman and without knowing her own luteal (the correct term for her fertile period) then the time of the month has very little way of gauging the chance of pregnancy.Also if you only did the deed last week, then most standard pregnancy tests will not register any hormone changes yet. If she were indeed to fall pregnant then implantation wouldnt be taking place until the end of the 2nd week. Therefore it would be a waste of money buying one now. If your still worried in about 3 weeks (and by then she would have a period due), then it would be the time for taking a test, or wait to see if she is late.Now after I have said all of this, the moral of the story is that if you dont want children, and you want protection from STD's - wear a condom in future. By combining a hormonal contraception (taken correctly) and a barrier method (condoms) you reduce the risk for pregnancy even further AND thecondoms will offer you protection against infection.
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reader, supermum +, writes (27 November 2011):
 It is unlikely she is pregnant if she is on the pill, but you definately should play safe in the future! If she had a period it would suggest she is not pregnant, but wait a few weeks and see if she has another one. I would not worry too much though, the pill is pretty effective.As for if she is pregnant.... what a silly question! Of course you would support her in every way you can and be the best father you can. There is nothing else you can do!From now on, play safe. Good luck!
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