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writes:Hi,I've asked questions before, but I'm still confused.I've been with a guy for 6 months. Due to circumstances in his life, he said he can't give me the time I deserve. He said that his feelings for me haven't changed. He needs some time to sort things out in his head. Unfortunatley my circumstances have also changed so I can't see him as much as I should either, I have no control over this. So understand his situation. How ever he said he doesn't want a girl-friend, but would still like to see me. I'm ok with this. It's been a month since the change, each time we've met he's been fine, we make each other laugh and happy. Although he has cut down on texting/calling me. But he answers my texts messages and calls. He tells me he misses me. I asked are you with me just for sex, he said no, and he'd still want to see me even if I refused. The other day I was at his place, he was getting ready for work and I found some leaflets about 'relationships'. I asked him what's this, he said it's interesting isn't it? I said yes but what are you doing with it? He said 'about you and me'. We're going away for a few days, which he said he's really looking forward to.Should I be worried that he's cut down on his text/calls, because that's the main thing that's changed.OR is there something I should be worried about?Thank you, :0)
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 You wrote, "Unfortunatley my circumstances have also changed so I can't see him as much as I should either, I have no control over this". It could be he is being cautious. Who started putting the distance between you first, you or him? If you did, I can't blame him for wanting to give you your space, especially if he doesn't want a girlfriend. For a minute though assume that he wants to date other women, but wants to date you too. Of course he's not going to tell you about other women he might be dating. The question is, what do you want? Do you want the relationship to progress, or do you want to just date? If you just want to date, keep on going the way things are. Why should you be worried, no rings on the fingers, right? If you want to be exclusive, tell him that's what you want and get back to talk about his answer.
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reader, Unique1 +, writes (13 July 2007):
Well, sometimes there is a lot going on and just because he texts and calls less doesnt mean his feelisngs change. Maybe he is just more busy or he needs to get his stuff/life organized. My boyfriend and I used to call every 2 hours and texted in between all the time. One day he said that it was little too much and at first i was worried but that didint really do anything to us. We still talk and text a lot but just not as much as before. His feelings are still the same now after 2 and a half years!
However, dont get me wrong- it might not mean anything, but than again it might mean something. Plus if your guy is making plans for you two, it shows you that his feelings havent changed and in this case his calling and texting less might really not mean anything!
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