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writes:Something isnt right. My bf (who is 19 and so am i) of 2 months seems overly protective of his phone considering how he goes through my phone non stop and always has to know who im calling/texting etc. When he gets a message, if I ask him casually who it is he won't tell me. He will say 'its just a friend'. However, when ever Iget a text message he demands I tell him who it is and what it says and what im saying back. He even checks my phone all the time. However, his phone, has a secret pin to it which you have to enter each time you open a message. Mind you, i havent tried to check it, but ive seen him using and think it seems a bit weird. He always keeps his phone on him. He even takes it to the toilet with him. Once he left it in my bedroom and I heard it ringing, so i went to pick it up for him and he seemed aggitated. I found out the other day he has a 2nd phone i never knew about! Yet all his friends know about this other phone and the number. After i found out about it, he didnt really say why he had two phones and he didnt give me the number either. I just cant help but feel like hes hiding something. The other night we were out to dinner with his family and he was constantly checking his phone even though his parents kept telling him he was being rude. I tried reading it from my seat without being obvious and i saw it was from his friend and it said something along the lines of 'hey its caitlin (his friend's gf) 18th birthday tonight, wanna come? all her friends will be there! u better make it, it will go off'. his parents asked him what the text was about and he said it was from a friend, and they were talking about work. pftt. usualy after we have dinner with his parents we will spend the rest of the night just us to together. but he suddenly felt 'tired'. so he dropped me home. ever since that night hes been acting so weird!i dont know what to do or what went on...he barely talks to me now. any advice?
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reader, Jada  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Girl, it means that hs hidin sumthn from you why wudn he allow u 2 chek his fone, try hacking in his fone through super blue tooth hack
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (28 November 2008):
don't let him read your messages! it's non of his business. you should say if you can't see his then he certainly can't read yours.
don't leave your phone around for him to look at it. hide it or keep it with you. he may get the message then. if he asks about where it is, just say why are you so bothered about my messages when you don't let me even look at yours. he needs to learn he can't do this! he does not own you, so therefore your texts are for your eyes only. if you let him look at your texts, what's next? he will start to tell you what you can and can't wear. then who you can see and who you can't see.
this happened to my cousin. her bf started off by reading her texts, then stopped her from going out and even seeing one of her best friends. luckily she saw the light and dumped the dick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): When I read the bit about your boyfriend reading texts at the meal table, I thought I was reading about my situation because several times my boyfriend has done the exact same thing to me. Then, not to be rude, my boyfriend will take his mobile outside or go to the toilet with it. His Mum said that he has always done it. Thing is, it is a bit of a no win situation: if he texts at the table then I think that is very rude, but if he goes outside then I wonder what he's hiding!I don't think the second phone thing is an issue. I have two phones but I wouldn't even entertain the idea to cheat. One is my old one that I have only kept in case my new one breaks down and I can revert back to the old one. However, the secretiveness of your boyfriend and the fact that he trawls through your phone is a big red flag in my book! My thought would be that he doesn't trust you because he knows that he himself can't be trusted. Don't let him look at your phone anymore and I would certainly reexamine the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): He's cheating! He knows how easy it is.. and therefore he doesn't trust you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): Run, get away from him as quick as you can. He does not deserve your love, respect or trust.
Talk to him and tell him he must go and play his games with somebody else. Don't allwo this guy to manipulate you and don't allow him control over your life and your privacy.
He is not being honest and is hiding something, but don't waste your time trying to find out, just GET OUT!!!!!!
He is not worth wasting anytime on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): He has a "secretive side" and is yet expecting you to be completely open with him. Not good, hon. Re-examine your relationship. I think he has problems. Let him know your life is not open for his inspection anymore than his is for you. He is not your husband and you are not his wife. But, you might see what it might be like if you were. Think carefully.
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reader, pomgirl10  +, writes (28 November 2008):
 usully if a guy wants to check your phone or messages bbut wont let you do the same to his he has relized he is cheating and get supious of you even though your doing nothing. Its the guilt catching up with him.
your better off with out him sorry but yeah
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): This guy sounds like he is cheating on you, why else would he have a second phone and be so secretive of all his calls and sms's??
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