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writes:Hi everyone hope everyone is well I’ve got a problem and looking for some advice my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years we got talking about one our friends last night we’ve known her about 6 months my boyfriend smokes weed and so does this woman (our friend) she often pops round when I’m at work and lately he’s been going to hers more and more he said they have joints together I don’t smoke it then during this conversation he says I don’t think she’s happy she has 4 children and is a single mum to them I says why’s that he says she’s been sleeping with loads of men and last night there was a man at her door about 11pm my partner gets up and goes over to the woman’s house to see who the man is he got himself all bothered by it and if I go to work on nights my neighbour has told me as soon as I go he goes over there should I be worried do you think or am I being to suspicious any advice greatly appreciated thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2018): Thank you for the answers I have questioned our friend regarding this she says she only ever does it when the kids are out she would never do it in the house nor would my partner in front of children she broke down and confessed she was depressed about recent family troubles so we are helping her work through this thank you for the answers once again
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2018): The kids are not in a safe situation if she is smoking pot and inviting random men over. They could exposed to all sorts of things.
I hope your boyfriend's concerns are for the kids, not her. She can fend for herself.
In my opinion you should be concerned about the whole situation. Your boyfriend shouldn't be smoking pot around kids, and he shouldn't be inviting a woman with a reputation for sleeping around into your house. That's disrespectful to your relationship; casts suspicions on him, as to what he's really up to.
It seems you've been burying yourself in denial; and you're oddly unconcerned about the kids involved in all this. If there's a man at her door at 11pm, it's likely the kids are at home. She could be selling drugs, her body, or both; and the kind of deviants to purchase sex also may have an eye for children. The guy could have also been her pot-guy.
I hope the kids are taken from her, I hope your boyfriend is over there when the police raid the place, and I hope you get your head out of the clouds. If you don't want him arrested for smoking pot around minors, or getting infected by an STD; you'd better put your foot down.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (28 July 2018):
 My primary worry in this situation is who is looking after her children when she is out (smoking weed or whatever else)?
Why have you not confronted your boyfriend about this yet? Are you afraid of what you may find out?
For the record, no, I DON'T think you are being too suspicious. In fact, I think you are turning a blind eye to a lot of behaviour which would wave raging red flags at other people.
Your boyfriend and your "friend" sound to be spending far too much time together on their own. She is obviously telling him all her problems and he is acting as her protector. He is sneaking off there as soon as you go out to work. Why are you concerned you may be "too suspicious"?
Does your boyfriend work? Or does he just lie around all day, smoking weed, while you support him and his habit?
In your shoes I would have been asking a lot of questions a lot sooner than this. What are you afraid of?
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