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anonymous
writes:I've been with my bf for about 5 months. He's absolutely amazing, treats me well, listens to me and respects me. Early in our relationship I told him that when it comes to being intimate I want to take things slow. I still haven't slept with him and we're gradually getting to that point. I'm really glad he respects my wishes.The other night he asked me to get something from his wardrobe while he was in the kitchen making dinner. When I was looking in the wardrobe I also found a box of condoms. I suppose he wants to be prepared in case I want to go further but what worries me is that the box is half empty.I didn't say anything to him (I don't want him to think I'm snooping around - even if I technically was).I know he's not dating anyone else, I've met all his friends and family and our relationship is good.Should I be worried about this half-used box of condoms?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): Thanks for the answers to all of you.
cgrlygo - I liked your answer, it's really made me stop and think why I'm being so insecure and mistrustful. Thanks a lot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): Well, you didn't think he was a virgin did you? I think your looking for something that is not there. I have condoms, in fact I don't think I know a single person that dosen't.. at least not the smart ones.
He is being smart and safe as we all should do. I think that you should stop before you loose a man who has done nothing but wait for you and been truly patient.
what concerns me is, he has done nothing to warrent such mis trust and yet you feel you have a right to pre accuse him.... of an act you have yet perfomed with him. (which is fine, we all move at our own pace).
Are you looking for an excuse to perhaps end the relationship? My point is, you know hes had sex before (more than likely). But you are looking for a reason to not trust him. Not out right but passivly. If you cant trust him with logical explanations right there what are you going to do further along in the relationship? What if he has lube to masterbate to? I think you should be worried about why you are having troubles trusting the obvious.
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reader, allineedistime  +, writes (26 November 2009):
Maybe he has just had it in there for a long time, since before you were dating. Also, I know my boyfriend's friend was given a box of condoms as a joke and he gave a lot of them away, so that's also a possibility?
Maybe you should talk to him, mention casually that you noticed the box when you were grabbing something for him and see what he says. He might be annoyed at you for snooping, but it's not a horrible offense and you need to have your peace of mind. Hope I helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): im sure its nothing to worry about. they are probably just a box he bought while in a previous relationship. if you are truely worried about it, you shouldnt keep your feelings from him though. i honestly dont think its anything to worry about though. it seems like its nothing more than a box of condoms.
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reader, Frenzotic  +, writes (26 November 2009):
 Has he been in a relationship with anyone else before you? You never know, he may have gave some to friends or his brother gave him half, or it's in his wallet etc?
If it's starting to nig at you you should ask him..
Just say "Oh I was looking for something in a the wardrobe and found half a box of condoms..." See what he says...
You're his girlfriend, you have a right to be concerned and if he has nothing to hide and tells you then good!
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