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writes:Here's another question of does age really matter!My sister, whose almost 19, has recently started dating a 32 year old. I've never met him and neither has any of my family, but her good friend, whose 23 and also knows him and introduced them, approves. They started off as friends and all the stories she told me about him seemed like he was an awesome guy, a little quirky and beats to his own drum if ya know what I mean, but he also seemed like a pretty cool guy. She says he acts young and isn't at all creepy, adn everyone says she's mature for her age. She's got a good head on her shoulders and knows how creepy it comes off as, but promises it's not like that. I guess I never thought of her as the type to go out with such an older guy, to be honest we've always made fun of it and thought it was creepy, but never thought anything was truly wrong with it. All of the other friends she's told say age is only a number, but he does have a few gray hairs, which honestly really gets to me!!! I know it wouldn't be fair to either of them if they became serious because they are at such different places in their lives, but I'm worried it might come to that.In reality, should I be worried?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): another thing i forgot to say, the grey hairs, my best mate has them, he is only 23......whats that to say about pre-mature greying lol xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow, I didn't think I would get answers so fast. Thanks alot you guys really helped. It's not like I'm against this guy or this relationship, I'm really happy for her because like I said I've only heard great things about him, I've just never dealt with this and couldn't help but think what if things became really serious, but I am excited to meet him.
I know she's an adult and all, but we're really close I just still see her as my teenage sister. I think the worst might come when she tells my parents, but I'll just explain to them what you nice people did to me. How could they not understand?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 I think your sister is old enough to mind her own business.
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reader, scrazy +, writes (15 July 2008):
 No, you shouldn't be worried at all. If your sister is happy with her relationship with her older boyfriend, then you should be happy for her.
Age is only a number and it's not like she's only your age having an affair with a 32 year old MARRIED man.
Grey hairs isn't that big of a deal, some people grey prematurely (as early as the age of 18!) and if anything, it can be covered up with hair dye.
I think you should wait to meet this guy and see how he and your sister interact together - maybe it's because you've never met him (only heard of him) before that you're a little concerned about your sister. Which is very sweet of you.
So try to be happy for your sister, because in reality: Her happiness with her new boyfriend is the only thing that matters, not how you feel about his age.
XO
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): hi, me and my ex...
i was 23/24 he was 30/31. i know this is a few years difference to what you asked but,
he was soooo inamture, he acted like a 3 year old, we both went out to the same type of places,for some reason, my friends were more mature than his, they used to run round with teatowels on their heads when they were drunk, mine would talk about chess and degrees, i was the younger one with the younger friends, he was the one living the younger life lol, but all in all, the age gap had nothing to do with our break up, if it wasnt for his few silver hairs, you wouldnt of guessed ha ha
but seriously, dont worry too much about it , most girls go for older guys anyways , if you both like the same scenes, or can cope with out liking the same, then its sure to be no problem at all ....xxx
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 You should only be worried if you see your sister miserable with this guy.
Like your sister's friends said, age is just a number. Remember that your sister is already an adult and well aware of her decisions on staying with this guy. You never mentioned any sign of unhappiness your sister has had with this guy and you have actually said his attitude is awesome. Grey hairs can easily disappear with a session with the hair dye.
Try to be happy for your sister because she's is happy with this man. Only worry if she starts being unhappy if the man starts mistreating her, but only at that time. I hope you end up accepting this guy because of who he is isntead because of how old he is. Your sister's happiness should matter to you and any other factor should be discarded.
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