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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes: I have remained friends with my ex who sees our girls every second weekend. He has begun dating someone who is very insecure. He says she's just insecure about me (although I have remarried and have another child, and as I said, he and I ended on a really good note.) However, he cannot get the girls for his time with them unless she is there and at school events I have seen her have to sit beside my ex so our girls cannot. He cannot visit his mother unless she is available to accompany him, and more recently, she goes through his cell phone and deletes posts I make on his Facebook page (she has his password). She found out I noticed, and a bogus "virus" was mysteriously the culprit. If she has issues with me I can handle it, however our girls notice what is going on, and I worry about the health of their relationship together with this woman and my ex. Should I be concerned?
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (13 September 2010):
You can be concerned but it doesn't sound like much you can do other than trying to talk to your ex about this. If that is who she is then I hope he understands what he is doing. It's his choice to be with who ever he wants, as crazy as they may be.
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reader, Sugarbuns +, writes (13 September 2010):
Are your girls old enough to understand the truth about women and their insecurities? If so, just be honest with them and tell them what you've told us. If they're too young to get caught up in the drama, then have them be the one to communicate with their Dad instead of you. The insecure g/f will be less likely to run interference when it's the girls calling. Hopefully after your ex is done with his re-bound relationship he'll realize how immature this woman is and move on.
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