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writes:I'm a virgin, but during oral sex and foreplay (I guess you could say), I've had an orgasm. I only get "sexual" with my boyfriends. So recently, my boyfriend and I have been doing a little bit more than 1st base. I feel pretty lucky since I do tend to orgasm pretty quick and it does feel amazing! Anyway, I'm kind of shy though the first couple times with my boyfriend. I am comfortable enough to have oral sex but I tend to be quiet. My question is this: do most of you girls moan or make noises when you orgasm or anything? Do guys expect the girl to be loud or moan or anything? I don't talk much during oral sex or anything, but when I'm in the moment, I do sometimes moan quietly.. Do guys prefer a woman who moans and talks or what? Is it weird if a girl is quiet other than breathing heavier? Girls, do you let the guy know you have an orgasm every time?
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reader, JonnyBoyo  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 I agree that you should do what feels right and not try and do anything just because you think you should.
The most important thing is that you make sure he knows (a) you enjoyed it a lot and (b) that you had a great orgasm, so if you're finding yourself being quiet just make sure you tell him in no uncertain terms that (a) and (b).
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reader, daletom +, writes (18 December 2008):
Guys like to know that their partner is receiving pleasure. Call it a "pride thing" if you wish, we really DO want our partners to get as much enjoyment as possible. Things like "body language" and facial expression provide feedback to let us know when we are doing well - but vocalization and other audible cues can be more effective when the light is dim or most of your body is outside our field of view.
However, whatever you do must be sincere. Do NOT force yourself or fake it! Whether they admit it or not, guys CAN tell the difference. A partner who puts on a false display is perhaps the greatest turn-off imaginable.
(You may have noticed that your B/F isn't as forthcoming as you with his audible or other indications of pleasure. Guys tend to be that way; it's not your fault. You can gently encourage him to be more demonstrative but it will take time to build the trust and comfort level he needs to be more open.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): i think most guys enjoy hearing a girl moan, and i think it has to do with 2 things.
#1 it's a pride thing on their part. they want to know when they're doing something right, and this a good way to communicate to them how you feel.
#2 it's a sexual thing. most men get off on getting you off, so it goes back to their pride. the more you moan, the more they know you're being pleasured, and the more they feel pleasure as a result.
some females feel uncomfortable doing it. if you don't feel comfortable then don't do it. most guys are so excited to be with a girl that they probably don't care one way or the other, but it definitely doesn't hurt and it also helps communicate what you like. if you feel awkward moaning than maybe you can just tell him when he's doing something right. say "i like that" or "right there" or simply tell him what you want him to do to you.
personally, i'm not really loud during sex. i moan during sex (before i orgasm) if it feels good, but i don't go out of my way or act like i'm a porn star either. guys can usually tell if you're overdoing it. you don't have to be loud or moan a lot to turn a guy on. if you moan shortly and quietly in his ear that usually turns him on while communicating what you enjoy. i use my moans as a means of telling my partner what i enjoy. if i don't feel overly excited then i might just breathe with him, but lightly. i also mix moaning and breathing together a lot. try starting out with a low moan/breath and getting a little bit louder and louder each time you make another short moaning sound.
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reader, sommerslover +, writes (18 December 2008):
 For a woman to announce the fact that she is "cumming" during oral sex is a turn-on for most guys. Saying how good it feels, or "oh yes, right there"! etc. would do it too. Most guys love to hear stuff like this. So, don't be shy. And you can do more than just breathe heavy when you orgasm...guys love that too.
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reader, xxidkxx +, writes (18 December 2008):
 hello there, i dont think you should change your ways, because you think your to "quiet" when you are getting oral or anything, my boyfirned has told me it "turnes him on and sounds hot" when i moan or breath heavly.
but i have asked some of my guy friend about this, and some have also said they like it when there girl is quiet, because it makes them concentrate better. so really your not a freak or anything,if your man was worried about it he would tell you. or ask you if hes doing something wrong or anything like that.
anything else, feel more then free to contact me
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): What do guys like? I can only speak for myself. I like to hear my spouse, we have to take care that the windows are closed (for both of us). The more comfortable you feel with your spouse, the easier it will be, just let it go (you might open your mouth and let nature do the rest). Never make artifical noices. And about talking... talk what you feel, need to feel, want to taste...
Be your self and feel comfortable, everything is normal, nothing abnormal, as long as it's pure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): I'm actually quite curious to other advice to this question. I'm rather quiet other that heavy breathing and some quite moaning like your self. This has caused quite a bit of question from my partner if it fells good. I'm just a quiet person, and once they come to know this, they don't bring it up again. I sometimes try to make a little more noise, but in general I am pretty quiet.
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