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writes: Hi all,I have been seeing this guy for nearly three months and everything has been great. he told me from the start that he was going on Vacation back to his home and would be gone for a month and I was cool with this everything has been great and he recently left to go I even took him to the Airport...he said he would miss me and we talked about all the stuff we would be doing when he got back.....now he has been gone over a week and I have heard nothing from him!!! should I be mad or worried I wrote him a nice E-mail just to say hi and see how everthing was going but no reply.....what do I do any answers would be helpful thanks Milly Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 I would contact my wife because thats the kind of guy I am. Others are less inclined to do so. If you're angry, it's understandable. Don't let it show though.
I've been in this type of situation. I live in Canada and my wife is from the Caribbean. She also has some close connections in the southern USA. She has been the one in our relationship to go away for a couple weeks at a time. I'm usually the one at home waiting for the call. It's easy to be resentful or wonder what's going on when you are the one stuck at home. Let's face it, your partner was the one with something good to look forward to. You had to put on the happy face and know you'd be lonely.
You need to get out and do things or else this will be a long month. Many crazy thoughts can go through your head. It's a little thoughless of him not to contact you but try to give him a chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you so much guys for your replys I have been going out with friends and doing stuff and I have not contacted him......I have not gone crazy or anything I just really wanted to know how to feel I think your right men don,t think like us....thanks again guys
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 OK so he has been gone a week, why are you panicking so soon?
He always told you he would be going back home for a month and he is probably just trying to enjoy his time there. Don't contact him anymore no matter how much you want to OK.
You have made the move and he hasn't responded, ever thought that his email may not be working? Perhaps the connection he has just isn't very good.
Men don't think like us women and they don't worry like we do, we see all the possibilities like did he get there OK and maybe he has been hurt or something.
Do you have a phone number for him where he is?
If you haven't heard from him in another week then try and ring him to see if he is OK as you were worried whether he got there OK and just leave it at that.
Don't put him on a guilt trip as this vacation was planned way before you got together and so he is probably catching up with family and friends and just hasn't thought how this has affected you.
Your relationship has only been 3 months and sounds to me like you have fallen for him big time, maybe he is a bit more reserved with his affections.
I understand how you must feel but give him a little time to answer and if no response then try once more but if you don't have a phone number just send an email or text saying did you get there OK?
In the meantime, don't sit around pining for him but instead go out with your friends and enjoy your free time OK. He will be back soon enough and then we forget our friends so remember that you do have some and don't be sad sitting in feeling sorry for yourself. The world does not stop when we get a new boyfriend life goes on so make sure you don't lose sight of who you are and who you were before you met him OK.
Best of luck.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): Not mad or worried! Go out with friends, keep yourself busy with things. Don't contact him again. If you have not heard from him then within a week, well, then I suggest you consider forgetting him to.
Good luck.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (8 June 2008):
 Be mad, not worried.
The chances are that there's nothing to be worried about. He's on vacation, and you KNOW that few of we men can cope with more than one thought at a time. Uncomfortable as it is for you and thoughtless as it is for him to do it, he's quite probably involved in half a million other things.
For the moment, I suspect, you take second place in his thoughts. He'll remember how much you mean to him when he gets bored - which is, of course, very bad behaviour and you can be extremely annoyed with him for not thinking of you and your feelings a little more. And quite rightly too.
I hope I'm right. On the balance of probability I AM right.
Good luck.
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